Jealousy

by Nancy Friday

Book Overview

A new edition of Nancy Friday's classic book makes available, once again, this searingly honest analysis of the deeply rooted, often hidden, human emotion that distorts our most intimate... This description may be from another edition of this product.

• Format: Hardcover
• Language: English
• ISBN: 0688043216
• ISBN13: 9780688043216
• Release Date: January 1985
• Publisher: William Morrow & Company
• Length: 539 Pages
• Weight: 2.15 lbs.

Customer Reviews

Green Eyes no matter what

Envy is coveting what another person has. Jealousy is fearing someone will take away what you have. The emotional lines often blur between these two sides of a poison. The remedy is love, love for self, love for others, being open to give and receive love. Both destructive feelings are a bottomless pit so remember - the color green is also the shade representing the heart chakra. When your heart is healed, there is less of a breeding ground for envy and jealousy to brew.

A moving, freeing book

It is impossible not to read this book and be deeply affected. It is impossible not to read this book and consciously, actively search for people in your life for whom this book had to be written for- and people in politics and the media, and anyone who has ever given you a bad day- ANYONE, but yourself. It is impossible to read this book and not find yourself at times trembling with being put in touch with your deepest insecurities, and the root causes which you have been denying for most if not all of your life. It is, wonderfully enough, also impossible to read this and not feel a profound connection to the world. It is impossible to read this and not have a lasting respect and understanding of the common sense of Medeieval and Renaissance Catholics in European history, who made a point of teaching this most deadly of the seven deadly sins every week, if not every day, to their children, without needing Freud, the internet, or a degree from Harvard. It is impossible not to acknowledge your own anger or even contempt and hatred at that which you logically have no right to be in your life or society, or those for whom the world would expect you to be the most compassionate, while seeingthat everyone does exactly the same thing in some way.Nancy Friday removes a lot of the veils and mystery over today's inexplicable suffering, from the seemingly sweet kind woman with the profoundly damaged children and destroyed marriage, to the erudite upwardly mobile socialites in prison for committing crimes of passion- to the everyday person like most of us, who somehow manages to push away everything we say we want, and damage it when we get it.It is impossible not to be on the road to living a better, more enjoyable life after really reading this book with a humble heart.

About a lot more than just jealousy

Nancy Friday makes easy going of a complex subject -- Object Relations Theory, which todays stands as the most complete (and therefore powerful) explanation of the human psyche. The title is catchy, but doesn't give the full flavor of the book. It's about _a lot_ more than just jealousy. Drawing upon myth, history, literature, psychological experiments and psycho-analytic theory, Friday lucidly illustrates the not-so-tangled relationships between envy, jealousy, hate, rage, admiration, denial, denigration, idealization, gratitude. . .it sounds complex, but isn't. This book is the best explanation of Object Relations Theory that I have yet encountered.

Essential for knowing our jealousy /envy beginnings

I have just completed this title for the fourth time in as many years. It continues to illuminate the hidden recesses in the dark corners of my mind. Nancy Friday's expose of her own pain of self discovery, encourages the capacity we all have to delve into the blocks to our true "Self" expression and free us from reactive habit patterns, to be more complete and true to ourselves, the further we go. It is a lifelong task for many of us and along with the self revelations in M.Scott-Peck's works, this book has helped me to understand I was not the only one with some desperate, frightened, dark and violent feelings in certain circumstances. These feelings are in Western society extremely misunderstood and frowned on by those people who hide under the veneer of social respectability on the outside, whilst often showing their true colours at home or some place where they will not be identified. Often these feelings are also so totally suppressed as to eventually ca! use physical illness within their body. You only need to look inside any aged care facility to see evidence of this, as bitterness, childish manipulation, sarcasm, ill-health and total self absorption are very clear to see. Often these people have lived their lives according to some other persons' ideals or expectations of them, consequently never finding out who the real person inside them was. Through fear, borne from many sources, they been unable to be themselves and chose a path of superficiality, not game to express their anger or feelings which is still socially symptomatic of being out of control or "mad". These feelings stem at any age but is acknowledged as usually stemming from early childhood, and often are a reaction to the lack of respect for their humaness or even their existence which makes them feel less or unworthy of the love and approval of their uniqueness. Maybe when we start delving into ourselves, painful and frighteningly vulnerable as it ca! n be, rather than looking beyond our immediate selves, we m! ay begin to realise that a world that is kind and loving and caring can exist. When we learn to take responsibility for ourselves first it will then become second nature to care for others. Too often we hear the cry of blame when people of all ages commit horrendous crimes but rather than criticise maybe we need to look at the way we use and manipulate each other to get our childish needs met, rather than as adults learning to meet our own needs and often, that is just a case of asking for help when we realy are stuck. Difficult at times, but just the courage communicate to ourselves what we need and want, can give us the strength to ask others if it is something we cannot do alone. As single human beings we are limited but that limitation can be extended when we learn to communicate and are prepared to give and take so that we all have what we need.