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Hardcover It's Not You: Identifying and Healing from Narcissistic People Book

ISBN: 0593492625

ISBN13: 9780593492628

It's Not You: Identifying and Healing from Narcissistic People

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INSTANT NEW YORK TIMES BESTSELLER

From clinical psychologist and expert in narcissistic relationships Dr. Ramani Durvasula, a guide to protecting and healing yourself from the daily harms of narcissism

AN OPEN FIELD PUBLICATION FROM MARIA SHRIVER

It's not always easy to tell when you're dealing with a narcissistic person. One day they draw you in with their charm and charisma, the next they gaslight you, wreck your self-esteem, and leave you wondering, What should I have done differently? As Dr. Ramani explains in It's Not You, the answer is: absolutely nothing.

Just as a tiger can't change its stripes, a narcissist will not stop manipulating and invalidating you, no matter how much you try to appease them. The first step toward healing from their toxic influence--and to protect yourself from future harm--is to accept that you are not to blame for their behavior.

Drawing on more than two decades of studying the landscape of narcissism and working with survivors, Dr. Ramani explores how narcissists hijack our well-being and offers a healing path forward. Unpacking the oft-misunderstood personality, she reveals the telltale behavioral patterns that indicate you may be dealing with a narcissist. Along the way, you'll learn how to become gaslight resistant, chip away at the trauma bonds that keep you stuck in the cycle, grieve the loss of these painful relationships, create and maintain realistic boundaries, discern unhelpful behaviors from narcissistic behaviors, and recover your sense of self after constant invalidation.

Thriving after, or even during, a narcissistic relationship can be challenging, but It's Not You shows you it is possible. Dr. Ramani invites you to stop blaming yourself and trying to change the narcissistic person, and to start giving yourself permission to let go of their hold on you and finally embrace your true self.

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12 customer ratings | 4 reviews

Rated 5 stars
This book is a hand book for life. Dr. Romani fills her readers with empathy and care as she teache

This book can help you understand that you are not responsible for the behavior of a narcissist.

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This book is a Game Changer

It's Not You is a wonderful book for survivors of narcissistic abuse. Thank you, Dr. Ramani!

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This is a life changer!

She is the easiest most sincere author on this subject. Anyone who has been in a toxic relationship or is dating and looking for a relationship should read this book. Everyone has probably had experience with toxic people at one point or another.

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Rated 5 stars
This book will comfort and educate you on how and why you must take authority over your own life.

Thank you Dr. Ramani for all your years of painstaking labor in the face of relentless criticism. Our world is a better place because of your work.

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