It Takes a Parent: How the Culture of Pushover Parenting Is Hurting Our Children-And What to Doabout It

by Betsy Hart

Book Overview

Challenging popular child-care practices that recommend against disciplinary measures, promote unhealthy levels of achievement, and minimize young people's responsibility for their own actions, a provocative guide on how to impart character and responsible behavior in children identifies specific parent roles. Reprint. 35,000 first printing.

• Format: Paperback
• Language: English
• ISBN: 0399532617
• ISBN13: 9780399532610
• Release Date: August 2006
• Publisher: Perigee Books
• Length: 239 Pages
• Weight: 0.65 lbs.
• Dimensions: 0.7" x 6.4" x 9.1"
• Age Range: 17 years and up
• Grade Range: Grade 12

Customer Reviews

Very realistic advice!

I buy this as a gift all the time for new parents

It's about time

At long last a non-psychobabble, commonsense approach to raising kids right. Hart's book is profound, sorely needed, and right on. She argues that idolizing children and focusing solely on their self-esteem is not healthy. Clearly they need nurturing, but not to the exclusion of limits, ground rules, and a solid understanding of right and wrong. Parents need to be authority figures. They also, she argues, need to stop obsessing about perfect kids and realize that mistakes can become learning opportunities that help children grow into healthy, well centered adults. And, of course, she argues against falling for the latest 60-seconding parenting tip of the day. Her work helps shift the focus back to parent's proper roles and responsibilities in guiding the character of their children. I taught in a public school part-time for eight years and currently teach martial arts to kids (and adults). I have seen the behavioral problems she refers to over and over again and have seen first hand how her approach really does work. And I use a similar approach with my own kids. This book is well written, compelling, and sorely needed. It's about time someone promulgated this approach. Highly recommended!

Interesting discussion on Culture

As a 40 year old single man without children, the subject of raising kids does not, in itself interest me. However, for years I have admired Ms. Hart ability to use and express common sense in getting to the crux of problems. And most of all, she simply a fun writer to read. Therefore, I picked up the book the day it came out, and despite having to get back to work the next day, I spent the same evening reading it. What I appreciated most of all in this book, is her outstanding ability in using and explaining studies. So much of today's conventional wisdom in rasing children is based on horribly flawed studies and poor/biased use of data (As an Auditor/CPA this is something I often deal with) Her chapter in spanking is a minor masterpiece of explaining the almost unbelievably biased interpretation of studies done on raising children. However the whole book in itself will make you a bit more aware on how the media puts it own spin on just about anything. And yes, the book is also plain fun.

Finally a book that gives parents permission to be a parent

It's ok to tell our children "no." It's ok to turn off the TV, to take away the Game Boy, to deny the ice cream cone. Come on parents! Step up to the plate and take some responsibility for your children! We have become a nation of children raising themselves. It's time to embrace the responsibility of being a parent. You owe it to your children and you owe it to our collective future.This book will help you on your way.

COMMON SENSE AND LOVE PREVAIL!

IT TAKES A PARENT finally challenges the parenting "experts" who treat childrearing like an academic practice set - the best of whose research and advice has created the situation today - kids disciplined by medication and ovrewhelmed by choices without parental leadership! Hart's book takes a close look at all the main experts, helps parents question them, and gives parents back the role of leader and guide in their children's lives! This book made it all come together for me, and I recommend it to every parent who cares about their kid!