Irresistible Attraction: Secrets of Personal Magnetism

by Mary Lee LaBay and Kevin Hogan

Book Overview

Summary:People form their first impression of you in three to four seconds! This book reveals to you the hidden secrets of attraction and charisma. You will learn to maximize your hidden and natural... This description may be from another edition of this product.

• Format: Paperback
• Language: English
• ISBN: 0963508520
• ISBN13: 9780963508522
• Release Date: January 2000
• Publisher: Network 3000 Publishing
• Length: 264 Pages
• Weight: 0.80 lbs.

Customer Reviews

Not Quite Seduction. Lots of Body Language Info.

I thought this book was better than Hogan's, The Psychology of Persuasion. Even though the book is about relationships and dating (though not quite seduction though he comes close at times), I'm using this book for selling. The book is heavy on body language and how to make a great impression. That alone was worth the price of admission. The book reads very quickly and even though there is an awful lot of scientific research discussed, it's not enough to get you bogged down. This is a fun read and a book to keep on the shelf for a long time to come. DT

Irresistable Attraction goes from attraction to relationship

Irresistible Attraction is a book about attraction done correctly.The book starts off (or should I say, the author starts off) poking fun at himself, revealing what we all believed to be true but never were sure....that men think about sex, most of the time...maybe all the time...and women actually have interests beyond this!Then we are taken on an easy to understand tour deforce of what men and women find attractive in each other based on research from various studies all around the world and evolutionary psychology. Next up, and, what I found to be the most interesting part of the book were the chapters about body language.The very notion that you can enhance and improve how people feel about you simply by how and where you sit, how and when you gesture, and amazingly simple things that aren't all as intuitive as you might think, was truly fascinating. These three chapters made the book for me.I was even more surprised to see such a detailed and thoughtful account of just how to build and safeguard a long term relationship. It really didn't need to be in the book, because the book IS about attraction but I thought it was really helpful. I'm young and maybe sometime soon, I will be able to use that chapter!!! Irresistible Attraction is a really well written book, it blends well what I've learned in college with real life experience and I can't help but give it five stars. (Hint: Every guy should read this book BEFORE they call the girl.)

Remarkably realistic book with tons of optimism

OK, so how can a realistic book about attraction provide optimism? Authors Kevin Hogan and Mary Lee LaBay pull no punches. They tell you what you suspected all along. Physical attractiveness is important and so are those resources. (College degree, finances, etc.) But, attraction can go beyond that, even in those first four seconds that Hogan and LaBay discuss for almost half of the book.Clearly you make your case before you open your mouth. There is no doubt about that. That's the first point of optimism. You can design an image of yourself that you want others to see based upon everything from your hairstyle to your smile (or not) and your dress. Then you can go uphill or down from there.Every person you meet, the authors tell us, has a perception that they want to see filled, or, a filter that may or may not have your name written on it. Fortunately, there is more reason for hope for those of us who don't look like Brad Pitt. The authors discuss in detail the aspects of a pleasing personality. They also share that regardless of how good a first impression you make, if you don't have a pleasing personality, you are short for life in the relationship.The book contains a particularly useful chapter on building relationships. It contains more questions to ask significant others than I had ever deramed of. This was really the best chapter in the book for me. (Although, the rest of the book will probably be a lot more fun to use in real life!)The book is divided evenly into discussing attraction, what it is, how it works and how to change perceptions in others. Then it talks about men and women separately so you can skip the chapters for women (if you are a guy). I have no idea if those three chapters were any good or not!I think that this book really fires on all 8 cylinders. I learned a lot. I found the authors humor enjoyable and I found the frankness in dealing with a very difficult subject refreshing.

"Not Much Happens Until 2 People Are Attracted to Each Other

"Not much happens in an intimate relationship until two people are first attracted to each other," says Hogan. How true! Think about it. Would you even want to be around that special person in your life, if you were not attracted to them? And what about them makes them attractive to you? Have you even thought about it?Then, Hogan asks, "Are YOU irresistible?" We are all so caught up in how others are attractive to us, that we can forget about the other half of the equation: ourselves! How do I take what I have and make it into something more, something magnetic? That's what this book answers for us. And the answer is going to be different for everyone, but this book gives tons of credible advice that will work for most of us.Fascinating: the evolutionary information inserted in chapter two such as why taller men are more attractive to women. The facts are presented in an easy to read, sometimes humorous fashion. A lot of authors take themselves way too serious, not Hogan. This book is fun and informative.The chapter about body language was probably the most eye-opening stuff I've read in a long time. How close is too close to stand? What about eye contact? Gestures? How do I spot discomfort? What can I do to make them feel more comfortable? Who thinks about this stuff? Well, we all should, obviously, and our dates would go much smoother!Hogan's reminder about positive expression is a great tip. How many times have you been on a date, and ended up being that person's shoulder to cry on? And you just met them fifteen minutes ago??This is not just a book about how to have a great date. The authors delve into how to determine long-term needs, wants, desires, values. They help you ward off disaster with many how-not-to tips. This book is great for anyone not in a relationship who wants to be, AND great for anyone in a relationship who wants to remain attractive to their mate, and maybe even become more attractive to them!

Fun, exciting and useful

I didn't know if I would like this book or not when I first saw it. I didn't want to read a book that was a Cosmo-get 'em in bed book. This was a pleasant surprise. Since Irresistible Attraction, I've read other books by Kevin Hogan but this remains my favorite for a lot of reasons.Every page is filled with fun, respect for women, lots of well researched information about relationships and sometimes a tongue in cheek atttitude that is very fun!Hogan and LaBay share fascinating research about body language and non-verbal communication. I learned so much about body language I feel I could be a commentator on television. Some of the more interesting facts I discovered included:1)When meeting someone you are likely to start off on the right foot if you keep that person to your right side. The research behind this was truly amazing and once you learn this, you wonder why no one ever figured it out before.2) The first impression really is important and in fact you should try to make a great impression on everyone you meet.3) People with different colored eyes expect to be looked at in different ways and for different lengths of time.4) People should dress themselves with colors that match their eyes for a great impression.5) Men and women's body weight influences how people perceive their personality. I thought people would like you for who they are and they do but people assign better characteristics to you if you are thinner!6) Women are deeper and more complex beings than men! (I knew that all the time.)7) Physical appearance is far more important to men than women. 8) Clothing styles help you state who you are and helps other people see you for what you are stating. 9) In the first few seconds of meeting someone, everything matters alot and carries over into the relationship.10) First impressions are difficult to change.11) There are lots of specific cues and clues that makes us more and less attractive to others.This book is like a Bible for making it easy for people to love you. I also agree with the other reviewers that sometimes the book veers off of the interpersonal dimension into the business dimension, but even that works.This book is fun, exciting and really useful!