Intellectual Foreplay: A Book of Questions for Lovers and Lovers-To-Be

by Steve Hogan and Eve Eschner Hogan

Book Overview

This solutions-oriented guide offers problem solving and behavior changing strategies for people working on their most intimate relationships. The book provides readers with: enhanced knowledge of their own and their partners' beliefs, values, habits, desires, goals, likes, and dislikes; ideas for opening communication and deepening a relationship; skills for making healthy decisions about lifestyles and boundaries; an in-depth understanding of the...

• Format: Paperback
• Language: English
• ISBN: 0897932773
• ISBN13: 9780897932776
• Release Date: January 2000
• Publisher: Hunter House Publishers
• Length: 288 Pages
• Weight: 0.90 lbs.
• Dimensions: 0.7" x 5.5" x 8.5"

Customer Reviews

Before you make that next date....

Buy this book. Read this book. Thoroughly. There are enough questions to spread out over several months, but asking them all the first week might scare your sweetie away! The goal is to get to know the person you're with, not to interrogate them. Take your time, weave them into the conversation. This is a wonderful book for people already in a relationship, but even BETTER if you buy it while you are still single, making that list of qualities you want to find in a partner. I agree with the reviewer who said it helped her map her value system. Some of the best advice given in this book is that in order to attract the type of person you want to be with, you must first BECOME the person you want to be with -- if you want to meet an outdoorsy type, then be an outdoorsy type. Sounds insanely simple, and it is. I am already ordering more copies for my friends.

Note from the author

This is in response to the person who rated Intellectual Foreplay poorly primarily because he/she felt that it was not possible for seven customers to review the book in the course of four months. First, I'm sorry if you did not find value in the book. However, I would like to assure you that all of the seven "customers" were real customers and users of the book. Secondly, the book came out in January of 2000 not December 2000. However, what you probably saw that confused you was the REPRINT date, as the book's first printing entirely SOLD OUT! I invite you to revisit the book and CAREFULLY read the first four chapters rather than skipping to the questions, as your very valid issues of honesty and such are addressed in the content found there. In addition, in the first chapters I speak to the importance of carefully reading the material in order, rather than taking it out of context, so that you will be able to truly benefit from the questions and understand how to use them. Ironically, a retired friend of ours has just started dating someone and one of the first topics of importance to him was whether or not she would be interested in traveling the country in a recreational vehicle. So while that particular question was not of interest to you, there are millions of people dating with different interests-hence the importance of asking! Bless you on your search for love!

It's more than just candy!

Being a young lady and all, I found this book to be a "life saver". This book allows you to get in touch with not only your partner, but also yourself. This book has helped me in more ways than one. It can help you too. I highly recommend "Intellectual Foreplay" to both singles and couples.

The "Love Bible"

I've been reading Intellectual Foreplay a lot...and it's amazingly accurate. I'm in a long-distance relationship and since we don't see eachother that often, we've been talking to eachother a lot, and we asked eachother the exact same questions that are in this book. I was stunned when I saw that. It's a really easy-to-read book with tons of deep-going questions that really make you think about relationships. It's not just a book telling you to do this or that, or telling you what's good or bad. It's a book that's open to a lot of thoughts and makes you aware that everyone's different and that there's more than one path to choose from.If there would be something like a "Love Bible", this would be it...trust me.

If Only I'd Known.....

I wish I'd had this book available to me before both my first and second marriage! It would have helped me to not only know my partners-to-be better, but also MYSELF in the process. I now refer to this book when I'm in dating situations to help me get to know the ladies I'm spending time with. I'm also going to send a copy to my 21 year old son so that he can make more intelligent, informed decisions about getting into, or staying in, a relationship. Thank you Eve and Steve!