I'm Not in the Mood: What Every Woman Should Know about Improving Her Libido

by Judith Reichman

Book Overview

The hormone of desire, testosterone, acts on the brain to stimulate sexual interest, sensitivity to sexual stimulation, and orgasmic ability in both sexes. The amount of testosterone circulating in a woman's blood declines by about 50 percent between her twenties and fifties. The most common complaint associated with this decline is a seemingly unexplainable decrease or loss of sexual desire and enjoyment.

In I'm Not in the Mood, Dr. Reichman...

• Format: Paperback
• Language: English
• ISBN: 0688172253
• ISBN13: 9780688172251
• Release Date: October 1999
• Publisher: William Morrow & Company
• Length: 208 Pages
• Weight: 0.45 lbs.
• Dimensions: 0.5" x 5.4" x 8.2"

Customer Reviews

Man as the cause of a woman's decreased libido?

There's a surprise category in this book. But, first, what's best about the book. I recommend the book to most of my female patients because it gives an excellent description of all of the causes of a woman's decreased libido. Reading this book gives a good framework for talking with the physician and for taking responsibility for improved health. Perhaps she underestimates the power of testosterone. No matter what else goes on, if that hormone is low, a woman will struggle with her libido. If you're considering changing the way you replace your horomones and want more details about the personal experiences of someone before and after proper hormone replacement, read Suzane Summer's latest book. The surprise category is this: Men can be the cause of a woman's decreased libido. The way Dr. Reichman explains it: if the man has ejaculation and quits before the woman is satisfied, then the woman experiences frustration and loses desire for sex. Replacing the hormones of a few thousand women has taught me that this problem is much more common than most men know (the woman does love her husband and so doesn't want to tell him). Dr. Reichman tries to address this problem by writing a few pages about impotence in males. Here's the problem, most men will not seek treatment from a physician (only about 30% of men with erectile dysfunction...impotence or premature ejaculation...will see a physician). So, I often find Dr. Reichman's category to be a real one: men do contribute to the decreased libido of a woman when they don't understand how to provide prolonged love making for the woman who needs it to achieve orgasm. Dr. Reichman doesn't expand on the problem of men as the cause of decreased libido, but another common problem in my practice is that the woman comes to see me with decreased libido, then after I treat her the husband can't keep up with her. So, she goes from decreased libido, to improved libido, to frustration and decreased libido again. Because my women patients usually can't convince their husbands to come see me, I wrote a 15-day course for men: Anytime...for as Long as You Want: Strength, Genius, Libido, and Erection by Integrative Sex Transmutation. Now, I ask my women patients to read Dr. Reichman's book. Then when the woman improves her libido (with the book and my hormone therapy), I give the woman the book Anytime...for as Long as You Want (which comes with an audio CD) to help her convince her husband to seek help in keeping up with her new libido. Read both of these books and don't give up. Just a few months ago, I had a 65-year-old patient brag to me that she had her first orgasm just a few weeks after starting therapy as descirbed in this book. Her husband of many years only smiled. --Charles Runels, MD Author of "Anytime for as Long as You Want: Strength, Genius, Libido, & Erection by Integrative Sex Transmutation (A 15-Day Course for Men to Improve Sex and Life)"

A good start for client and clinician discussion

I have used this book in my clinical practice as a Women's Health Nurse Practitioner for the past couple of years to treat Female Diminished Libido. I loan my copy out to my patients who don't want to purchase this book and have had tremendous success with my patients. I have my client read the book over a couple of weeks while waiting for lab results to come back and then we discuss her lab results and what she discovered in the book. The book has had the beneficial effect that most of my patients are able to honestly reveal if there is marital discord that may not have been admitted to in the first appointment. Opening up the way for a sex therapist or marriage counselor has been another positive benefit of this book. I find that many of my patients were reluctant to consider counseling in the first appointment, but were willing to include counseling as part of the treatment plan of their decreased libido. So many women learn about the female body and functions for the first time while reading this book. Every patient has been very happy with this book and no longer felt alone with this problem. They were able to realize that other women have suffered with this same problem and that, most of the time, there is positive results with hormones, exercise, honest communication with their spouse, counseling and/or treatment for depression. I plan to continue to use this book in my treatment of Diminished Female Libido.

It's something men need to know also!

I NEVER know why women aren't in the mood!! The frustration!! AAAAAAA!! I bought this book to help me in this area, and I have to say it has helped me out a lot. It's a must read for any guy. Another great book to read is The Hormone Desire; The Truth About Testosterone, Sexuality and Menopause. I know, these are books for women, but if you know why she isn't in the mood, you can take what is found in these two books and use it to put her IN the mood!

This is a book that can make your life better.

Dr. Reichman addresses the sexual problems that so many women have, but doctors usually dismiss or ignore. At last, a book that gives honest and solid information to women of all ages. Love her style and honesty. From seeing her on Today show, I trust her caring concern for women's health, which so many studies and doctors place after men's health issues. I've recommended this book to many of my friends and after reading it they have all thanked me. Most important, they say it has impacted their life positively.

A frank, engaging sexual self help book.

Dr. Reichman tackles a delicate subject in her latest book, "I'm Not in the Mood Tonight". The book deals with the loss of a woman's libido, or sex drive, and how to get it back. It's direct approach is refreshing and honest. Dr. Reichman spells out the possible causes of decreased sex drive, some of which you'll find very surprising. As the founder and host of the online perimenopause/menopause support group HotFlash!, I have learned that hundreds of women want to regain their sexual selves. It is very important to them. Dr. Reichman's book does a terrific job of explaining the many culprits for a declining interest in sex. She takes a great deal of time in offering solutions and therapies for getting our sex lives back on track.Sue R.N., BSN