If I'd Only Known: Sexual Abuse in or Out of the Family: A Guide to Prevention

by Dorothy Neddermeyer

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• Format: Paperback
• Language: English
• ISBN: 1930586167
• ISBN13: 9781930586161
• Release Date: November 2000
• Publisher: American Book Publishing Group
• Length: 208 Pages
• Weight: 0.54 lbs.

Customer Reviews

a good primer on a bad subject

Sexual abuse of children by adults or other children is an ugly subject most of us would rather know nothing about...except statistics say it is at epidemic levels. In my experience, it is when those first inappropriate, almost casual, actions go unremarked ("It's just children being children!") & unstopped ("No harm done, they'll grow out of it!") that allows for the next & the next, & each successive instance of abuse will become more explicit & damaging. It ALWAYS does.Dorothy M. Neddermeyer has put together a good primer on what sexual abuse is, how & how much it happens, what to look for, what to do when it happens, how to teach your children to watch out for themselves & how to build a bridge of trust upon which your children can report unwanted behavior.IF I'D ONLY KNOWN... is an excellent handbook which everyone living & working with children needs to read & put into practice because it is a dangerous world out there & our children cannot protect themselves from older figures of "authority." & because the damage done by ignoring or pretending everything is ok has repercussions that bind child & adult into the dreadful cycle of doing unto others what has been done unto them.

If you have a child, wake up and read this book

The book's title says it all. While women can expect to know 75 percent of their attackers, the U.S. Department of Justice reports that 96 percent of rape victims under the age of 12 knew their attackers. While we might fear an attack on our children by strangers, Neddermeyer's work exposes the truth that your child is most likely to be sexually abused by the person you would least expect. Her book offers a step-by-step guide in teaching your child how to protect themselves from this heinous crime.Brad ParkerWomen's Self-Defense Institute

If I'd Only Known

The sexual abuse of children can happen with most any youngster by most any adult but some children are especially vulnerable to being abused and some adults are particularly driven to violating them. Predatory adults threaten families and communities as safe havens and alert us to the need to be informed, vigilant, and clear about shielding children from harm. This timely guidebook is an important step in that direction by alerting parents, leaders, and caregivers to common dangers and calculated grooming that can threaten the well being of children in the home and community. This book is eminently practical and filled with a lot of common sense checks and reminders, the kind of guidance detail that can come from the author's experience as a therapist. With specific examples of how abuse occurs, the author expands her solid overview of the issues in the first half of the book. The last half is devoted to what to do concerns and checklists. This is a guide to prevention that includes also a nice bibliography for additional in-depth help. Roman Paur Executive Director Interfaith Sexual Trauma Institute (ISTI) www.csbsju.edu/isti Founder Faith Community Learning Resource (FCLR) www.csbsju.edu/fclr

A definite read for parents and child caregivers!

The number of children who are abused in the world today, is unfortunately on the rise. It is best said in the book, "If I'd Only Known..." - "if a disease affected our children in these enormous numbers, we would declare a national emergency."The book, "If I'd Only Known...Sexual Abuse In or Out of the Family: A Guide to Prevention," by Dorothy Neddermeyer, gives parents the know-how they need to help prevent their child from being sexually abused, and how to learn the signs of abuse. Among other things, the book discusses good/bad touches, self-protection, good body-image, and other helpful informative child-protection tips that parents can teach their children. The book also includes helpful resources for preventing child abuse. MyParenTime.com highly recommends "If I'd Only Known..." - It's filled with helpful and easy suggestions on keeping your children safe from abuse, and gives parents a better understanding on how children become easy targets. Anyone caring for a child should take the time to read this book!

This Book says it all...

Children are our most precious gift from God. As adults we are responsible for the safety and security of all children. Awareness is the best weapon against crime and we must have the tools necessary to defeat those that would harm our children. In her book "If I'd Only Known....Sexual Abuse in or out of the Family: A Guide to Prevention, Dorothy Neddermeyer provides us with the tools needed to recognize the signs of children who have been assaulted by sexual predators and the steps parents should take to prevent sexual abuse.This book shines a light into the shadowy world of the sexual predator that threatens our kids on the street and in our homes. --PAUL RAGONESE, former highly decorated NYC Police Officer, former cablevision host, "Safe Streets," currently CBS Crime News consultant