What to Do When He Says, I Don't Love You Anymore: An Action Plan to Regain Confidence, Power and Control

by David Clarke

Book Overview

Discarding popular Christian advice to use romance and sweetness to draw a wandering spouse back into a marriage, Dr. David Clarke lays out a tough-love action plan for abused and betrayed spouses to rebuild their marriages through proven steps that will restore self-confidence one step at a time.

"I don't love you anymore." These simple words have the power to send the listener into shock, denial, and desperation. The obvious...

• Format: Paperback
• Language: English
• ISBN: 0785265155
• ISBN13: 9780785265153
• Release Date: September 2002
• Publisher: Thomas Nelson
• Length: 224 Pages
• Weight: 0.60 lbs.
• Dimensions: 0.6" x 5.4" x 8.4"

Customer Reviews

this book saved my marriage

I wish you would buy this book. If you have been betrayed and are on the couch, if you cannot stand to live with the pain one day longer then this is the book for you! My marriage was for all intensive purposes, over. I was devastated and hurt beyond belief. A friend gave me this book and I became stronger and more determined to fight for my marriage than ever. This author gave me my dignity back! We are recovering and working together as a married couple today because of the help in this book. In a world where so many people tell you that your spouse's selfish choices are your fault, finally, a book that asks the infidel to own his choices with the goal of saving your marriage. This is clearly not your grandmother's book on adultery! Whether your husband comes home or not, this book will give YOU hope for the future. It is truly a healing tool. Read it!

great if you are new to the marriage failing

I read this book when my husband had already moved out and is living with another women. For me, this book was too late but if you are in a place where your life partner is about to leave or has just left....this book is great. I am a Therapist and I highly recomend this book.

If you are serious about regaining respect in your marriage

If you are even considering buying this book then you must be at a very dark and confusing time in your life. At least I was when I bought it. Reading this book really put things into perspective and reassured me there was hope no matter what the outcome would be. It's a very matter of fact approach but that is what's necessary when you are going through hard times. Let's just say I was in the finale stage of the book's suggestions and had given up all hope when things turned around for me. I am a firm believer in keeping family together...if it's worth holding on to. Stay strong, and don't lose sight of your needs.

Tough Love - May not work, but can't hurt

The title of this book is what grabbed my attention - the five words nobody wants to hear. Inside, Dr Clarke gives hard hitting advice for dealing with an adulterous spouse, based on the tough love approach probably first advocated by Dr James Dobson. I found Dr Clarke's book more direct in its advice than Dobson's however. Clarke makes the victim realize that they have nothing to feel bad about, which if all that's one is to get out of the book, isn't a bad thing. Clarke hammers home again and again that nothing one spouse does to the other justifies the adulterer from the sinful action of adultery. Preach it, Dr Clarke. I suspect the people that take Dr Clarke's advice are not very likely to win their spouses back - but then they aren't likely no matter what strategy they follow. So why not? Take Dr Clarke's advice and start picking up the pieces and feel better about yourself. Don't let your adultering spouse attempt to transfer their guilt onto you. Take charge! They flipped your world over, so flip it back!

Straight Talk

I purchased this book because my best friend's husband told her that he wanted to break up (they had been married less than 1 year) and that he had had an affair. Probably because I've never been through the pain of having someone cheat on me, and because of our society's acceptance of just getting a divorce if things don't work out, I wasn't even very shocked by his behavior. My initial reaction to his adultery was for her to be the one to try to win him back. After reading this book (which I sent to her) it made me very angry at what he had done. This book provides the biblical approach to dealing with something as devastating as a cheating spouse.