How We Make Our Kids Angry: Suggestions for Parents Who Want to Change

by Roger Cross

I remember one of the first times our younger daughter Amber vented her anger at me for something I did. In reality, it was something I didn't do that made her mad. She had asked me to help her with a paper she was writing for a middle school class. The paper required a lot of research, and Amber didn't know how to go about doing the research."There's nothing to it," I assured her flippantly. Then instead of showing her what she needed to do, I simply...

• Format: Paperback
• Language: English
• ISBN: 083083365X
• ISBN13: 9780830833658
• Release Date: July 2011
• Publisher: IVP Books
• Length: 126 Pages
• Weight: 0.35 lbs.
• Dimensions: 0.4" x 5.8" x 8.2"

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Punishment can often be administered in anger, while discipline is more controlled and measured.

Written by father of three Roger Cross, who served thirty-eight years of ministry to tens of thousands of kids through Youth for Christ, How We Make Our Kids Angry: Suggestions for Parents Who Want to Change is a parenting guide about respecting children while simultaneously providing them with the boundaries they need. Though addressed to Christian parents, How We Make Our Kids Angry is about principles of good parenting universal to all faiths. Chapters discuss the perils of expecting kids to fill adult roles, unjustly pressuring a child to fulfill one's own fantasies, playing favorites, and other behaviors that may not be unconsciously done but are none the less harmful. "Consider and Respond" questions at the end of each chapter round out this thoughtful parenting book grounded in practical wisdom. "Understand the difference between discipline and punishment. The difference has to do with motives. The motive of punishment is to make sure the child experiences pain for stepping over the line. Discipline, while it usually involves some kind of pain (a swat, being grounded, privileges withheld, etc.) is motivated by correcting and improving behavior. Punishment can often be administered in anger, while discipline is more controlled and measured."