How to Succeed with Women

by Ron Louis and David Copeland

Book Overview

A guide for single and divorced men who want to enjoy both casual and intimate relations with the opposite sex, from courtship to seduction, from flirting and grooming to intimacy and relationship... This description may be from another edition of this product.

• Format: Paperback
• Language: English
• ISBN: 0735200300
• ISBN13: 9780735200302
• Release Date: October 1998
• Publisher: Prentice Hall Press
• Length: 320 Pages
• Weight: 1.19 lbs.
• Dimensions: 1.2" x 5.5" x 8.3"

Customer Reviews

A Must Read For "Losers" and "Nice Guys"

This book changed my life. I wish I had read it when I was 14...it would have saved me 23 years of miserable failure after failure in my pursuit for romance. Within 24 hours of reading this book, I had one good-looking girl's phone number and I steered another hot woman's budding "friendship" into a budding romance. This book answers the question nice guys like me always wondered about: why don't we get laid more often? Why do all the girls we're interested in only want to be friends with us?Great practical advice which, when applied, will not only score you girls, it will boost your self-confidence umpteen times as a result. Plus, the quest for chicks then becomes a worthwhile "hobby" which can divert you from your otherwise boring existence. I found myself thinking less and less about my problems as I became more involved with meeting more women. And, for those of you homebound couch potatoes, it will motivate you to get out more and to get yourself in shape.A real eye-opener. Highly recommended.(Oh, and make sure you have it well-hidden when your date comes over!)

Read this AND Iron John

This is a book for men with a sense of humor. Most importantly, it is a book for men who want to get physical with attractive, interesting women. Toward that end, the book is chocked full of outstanding suggestions. But the most two important pieces of manly advice in the book are: 1. draw validation from your own life, not from relationships with women, and 2. seek confident women who draw validation from their own lives--who are not needy. I think this sort of confidence begins with humor and a willingness to see dating for what it is: a game. Many times in order to meet the right woman, the book maintains, a man needs to play the "numbers" game. Meeting, dating, and sharing physical intimacy with a variety of women is a healthy part of a single man's life.I realize not everyone feels this way. I read the 90 plus reviews and realized that it is a "love it or hate it" book. Understandably so. Most of the book's detractors fall into recognizable categories: men who don't want to be told the obvious (make your car clean & romantic, dress nice); men who have sensitive dispositions; and women who find the book downright offensive. Many of the men and women who wrote scathing reviews indicated that any man who tries the suggestions in the book is simply an immoral opportunist. I want especially to address this issue. It is never wrong to create a romantic atmospshere on a date. Anyone who thinks otherwise would most likely not make a pleasant date. If your desire is to compliment, to touch a woman both physically and emotionally, then you should do just that, and do what is necessary toward that end. The books maintains three important things: 1. it makes perfect sense to have a number of romantic possibilities while one is single; 2. it makes sense to choose dates who are creative, warm, and physical; and 3. it makes sense to choose relationships that work. Naturally, when relationships become draining and destructive, they should not continue. One of the finest chapters in the book is "When Babes Attack: Handling Problems Women Cause." The message: it is just as important to know who NOT to date as who TO date. The authors reiterate that it is not a man's responsibility to shoulder a woman's neuroses, bad attitudes, or problems. Their assessment about low, middle, and high maintenance women is right on the mark. And their suggestions on how to keep away from trouble and steer toward pleasant dating experiences makes a great deal of sense to me.I think the book is self-recommending. I give it five stars without any reservations whatsoever, as have a few dozen other reviewers. Some see the book as something that teaches men how to take advantage of women and form a string of meaningless short-term relationships. This is a joke. I believe strongly that a man who is single should thoroughly enjoy dating until he finds a mate who is on the same page as he is. Sexuality is an important part of this process. This

Useful and easy to apply

At 28 years old and never married it is time for a change. I decided last year that I want to be married before I turn 30 (in a year and half). I am an average looking guy living in New York and have worked on Wall Street for four years, doing alright. I am different than most of the guys posting on here, I am looking to get married. I want the long term commitment, not just getting my rocks off. I've dated, used personals ads, joined dating services, etc., none of that stuff worked for me. I've read books by other authors and people like Tony Robbins, John Gray and others, and that stuff was useful, but it didn't get me a woman. But when I read How to Succeed With Women it was a turning point for me. Now, I was really ready for it; like the old expression the teacher comes when the student is ready. I was prepared and ready to go; ready for a Yoda to enter my life. Anyway, I have used this book for six months of hard core flirting and dating and searching for the right women. I have used the Louis and Copeland "method" every step along the way. I have dated well over 25 women in my search for a potential mate and now I think I've found her. Now, I don't want to make this search look easy or infer that this book is the bible, because its not. But what was useful was the plan that the authors set forth. What was useful were the stages of relationships and how they develop. It was useful to learn how to keep a long term relationship last and keep it passionate over time. The authors could have written a bit more on this topic in my opinion. But what they did explain and expond upon was really useful. So, I've learned a tremendous amount from this book that's been applicable in all areas of my life. I am happier since working with their program and have been successful with women more than ever before. Hopefully now I have found someone to settle down with and the search will be over.

Blame the gun for existing or the shooter for using it?

Just because the book tells you how to seduce women just for sex doesn't mean you will. That is up to the individuals morals is it not? This book is just the tool, how you use the tool is up to you.I read every review posted and I must say to the women that posted: You'll never know that a man is using the tactics presented in this book, you will not want to know because basically if you like the guy, you will accept him, if you do not like him, you won't. If he makes you feel special and/or seems romantic that is a BIG plus, is it not? Guys call it tactics, women call it romance; it's a play on words to the same end. I personally feel this book ruins a woman's perception on romance and I tell my female friends not to read it.Me for instance. I have been looking for `true love' for years now... and failing... After reading this book (quickly) I dated heavily (hint: learn to swing dance!) twice a week and had very positive results. Let me tell you this book demands you respect yourself first then look for women. It tells you to be the center of your universe and invite those women that wish entrance in. Make yourself a target and present yourself in the most appealing way possible to potential mates. Using this book I now have a wonderful girl friend of 4 months who I totally love and respect and we have not had sex yet because she is not ready for it. However I did use this book TO THE LETTER and swept her off her feet and made her fall in love with who I am now...And that's what it's all about.

Extremely Helpful

What I liked best about this book is how much hands-on and useful stuff it has in it. I was able to start using their program right away, and I liked the way their program moved step-by-step through meeting women, overcoming rejection, and more. I also liked the way they broke down seduction into steps, so now I can tell where I am in a seduction--am I at first meeting, flirting, getting the number, setting the date, on the priming date or the seduction date--very useful distinction, there--or so on. I also like the overall guidelines they give, and how much they show you the importance of following them. I can't believe, for instance, how often I've interacted with a woman without an outcome in mind--it's easy to say you should have an outcome in mind, but they actually show you how to do it, moment by moment, so you are never just "randomly chatting" with a woman--you are moving the seduction forward. I also never knew that a woman sleeps with you because of how you make her feel, rather than because of how you look or whatever. And I'd been making the mistake of trying to be friends first with women I met--I didn't realize that women are deciding in the first three minutes whether to make a guy a "lowly friend," as they call him in the book, or a lover. It's been so simple to turn that around, now that I know how! I wish I'd had this book years ago. Their simple two-step process for overcoming rejection fear is worth the price of the book all by itself! I'm just a couple of weeks into using the program and women are responding to me as a MAN now, and as a potential lover, rather than as some nice boy who they want to be "just friends" with. Thanks to the authors--this is the "real deal."