How to Be the Jerk Women Love: Social Success for Men and Women in the '90's

by Frank Spavlica, F.J. Shark, F.J.Shark

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• Format: Paperback
• Language: English
• ISBN: 0964010909
• ISBN13: 9780964010901
• Release Date: January 1994
• Publisher: Thunder World Promotions
• Length: 157 Pages
• Weight: 0.62 lbs.
• Dimensions: 0.5" x 6.0" x 9.0"

Customer Reviews

Very Good

Shark teaches you to BE the man that girls want. Reading this book WILL improve your attitude a lot.This is not your average dating book. Shark does not give youstupid pick-up lines to impress women. Let THEM impress you.It's all about your ATTITUDE. Why do women like jerks?Because jerks give them emotional highs. Girls are addicted tojerks. The average male is boring and gives all his power togirls. Shark teaches you how to take the POWER back!!!And yes, girls will start falling HARD for you when you learnthis stuff.Expect More, Accept Less!!

very insightful -- must read for "nice guys"

It is very important to note that he is NOT encouraging guys to be jerks. He has simply identified the (positive) qualities that jerks have, which are attractive to women. If you are a real "nice" guy, you must have lots of female friends that keep ending up with jerks, so it is very natural to ask WHY?He contends that women want guys to be a set of opposites, something like:1. unpredictable, yet goal-oriented2. spontaneous, yet plans dates3. adventurous, yet in control4. aggressive, yet mellow and cool5. mysterious, yet their best friendAre guys like this possible?? Yes, take the example of a (successful) rock musician. He is undpredictable, spontaneous, etc. when on stage, but has his life planned to the exact tour dates in the long run. Which girl hasn't had a crush on a rock-star :) So the key is to be spontaneous and unpredictable in the short term, but goal-oriented and in control in the long run. I believe this is very true, in the long run, women want to be secure with their men, but they want to have FUN in the moment. For me, this paradigm of short time "jerk" long term "nice guy" was new, accurate and very helpful to understanding women. The second key point made in this book is that nice guys try too hard to please. They are too accepting. Jerks are generally more demanding. And here is the key observation: think about it, what helps you grow more, a someone who pushes you and stretches your abilities, or someone who accepts anything you do? We all remember those teachers who demanded much from us at school. This is why nice guys become boring, they don't cause women to grow. If "nice" guys would just say a harsh word when their lady is late for a date, she wouldn't need to fall for really abusive guys. Also if a woman can get away with treating you badly -- how can she trust you to protect her from being treated badly by others?The third important advice for nice guys is to focus more on themselves. Jerks are generally passionate about something. They play in a band or have some sport or other hobby. Here he tries to do some Tony Robbins stuff and it's a bit rip-offish, but the basic point is well taken. First put a smile on your own face, then you can make others smile.All-in-all, this is very insightful for nice guys in their early twenties. Reviewers who complain about this book making guys being jerks have completely misunderstood the concept. This book is not disrespectful towards women. It is not about getting laid. This book is written for nice guys to be more assertive, spontaneous and wild. Unfortunately, most of the real information could be written on a pamphlet. It contains lots of useless rambling. He couldn't make much money on selling a pamphlet now could he? :) Anyway, the information has been helpful to me. But I must admit that I haven't bought the book myself.

Shark is a genius!

He's the first author I've seen that tells it like it actually is, instead of some fairytale version of how women (and nice guys) wish it would be. It's incredibly refreshing. Don't let the title scare you, it's not about being mean to women. It's about getting a woman's respect and keeping your self-respect too. It's about being a MAN and giving a woman what she really wants (not what she might say she wants). This is a book that needed to be written. I'm a recovering "nice guy" who always tried to prove to women that I was different from those "other guys". I was different alright, they were having success and I wasn't. I finally got tired of watching some other guy walk off with the girl I wanted. If you want to know why you're striking out with women, read this book.Don't waste you time with any other "success with women" manual (I've read them all), this is THE ONE. Hey Shark, we need a sequel!

Shark has cracked the code of understanding women...

Shark is a genius. I have read literally every "how to get girls/art of seduction" book on the market, and Shark stands head-and-shoulders above the rest. Stop being the nice guy that women trample on. Read this book and you will not regret it.

This is a great book for the under-30 crowd!

This book was an eye-opening experience for me. I am ordering a second book to loan to friends. The title seems a bit offensive, but it is not intended as a 'how to' manual, besides most of us 'nice guys' couldn't act the ways that are described in the book, even if we wanted to. But it explains the action and re-action of things people do and say and WHY. Great BOOK!