How to Be a Babe: Overcome Your Romantic Obsessions and Other Obstacles to Having the Sex Life You Deserve!

by Joy Davidson

BABEness is not about a woman's resemblance to a certain soft-drink-pedaling pop icon or her rank as a man magnet. It's the quality a woman exudes by virtue of being: B. Bold, A. Authentic, B.... This description may be from another edition of this product.

• Format: Hardcover
• Language: English
• ISBN: 1592330053
• ISBN13: 9781592330058
• Release Date: January 2003
• Publisher: Fair Winds Press (MA)
• Length: 216 Pages
• Weight: 0.90 lbs.
• Dimensions: 0.9" x 6.3" x 9.3"

Customer Reviews

Terrific! And about more than sex.

This book is terrific and I highly recommend it. It goes beyond its stated goal of helping you achieve the sex life you want. It?s really about overcoming any number of self-esteem issues that you can undertake on your own to become a more authentic, self-actualized person -- which, naturally, will also put you in closer touch with your erotic center. It?s clearly one of the wisest, most responsible and intelligent self-help books I?ve ever read. And, believe it or not, I think any guy with self-esteem, sexuality or authenticity issues can learn from it also, as long as he can get past the title.

Only Pretends to Be Just About Sex

The fascinating thing about this book is that it portends to be about how to "get the sex life you deserve," but it's really about getting the life you deserve-- in all AREAS of life, with sex being only one of them. Davidson's mantra seems to be that if you can't be an authentic person in one area of your life, then you aren't going to be very authentic in the bedroom either, and it works.This is a very readable text. I loved the whole-person approach, and Davidson has a true talent for writing and gift with words. She spends a lot of time talking about how to undo negative messages from childhood and why women (and men) end up in bad relationships, but it doesn't come off sounding patronizing or like so much other pop psychology drivel in other self-help books. In fact, I did not consider this a "self-help" book at all. I loved settling in with this book at night, feeling like I was talking with a best friend. I thank Davidson for the gift of this book.

AN ENLIGHTENING ESSENTIAL

I think a review of this book would not be complete if it only mentioned the sex advice given in the text, since it does not seem that this is the sole intent of the author. The book is divided in two--one half focuses on defining the patterns of reactingto members of our families of origin that continue tocontaminate our ability to approach our significant others with clear boundaries,both psychologically and sexually. The authordoes a great job of showing what boundaries are, and how we can hold on to them. She is clearly rooting for us, the reader, whiledispensing information in an accessible and sometimes humorous manner. The writing is polished and lucid, randomlyspiced with enjoyable bon mots.The second half of the book goes into more detail about manyaspects of a woman's sexuality and sensuality-fantasies, S & M(the best section on this subject I have ever seen, having norelation to the skewed versions of the media), ...,threesomes, g-spot, etc. There is a wealth of information here,but the tone of the book does not make the reader feel that she is being judged by which option she may choose, if any. The point is not only to allow women access to as much informationas possible, but to help women get rid of negative self-talk thatis taken for granted in a sexual culture that is still dominated by male interpretation--i.e., that certain behaviors are "slutty," or "if I think this,I am a BAD girl," etc. The only place for words like these are in afantasy that gives one pleasure, not in an actual belief system.Even though this is a hip and enjoyable must-read, it is alsoa serious book. A GREAT combination!

A Breakthrough Book for 21st Century Female Sexuality!

If I had a sex therapy practice, How to Be a Babe would be a must read for my female clients. It's kind of a 21st century "For Yourself."How to Be a Babe should be one of those break through books for this decade. With so much of the 80s and 90s having been absorbed by AIDS and then the retro anxieties of extra-marital affairs, my heart jumped a beat when I found How To Be a Babe. While clearly written for mainstream audiences it nonetheless thoughtfully and intelligently discusses things like the g-spot and female ejaculation, swinging, polyamory and anal sex.