Helping Clients Forgive: An Empirical Guide for Resolving Anger and Restoring Hope

by Robert D. Enright and Richard P. Fitzgibbons

Forgiveness has been found to be a pivotal process in helping clients resolve anger over past betrayals, relieve depression and anxiety, and restore peace of mind. Synthesizing over 20 years of... This description may be from another edition of this product.

• Format: Hardcover
• Language: English
• ISBN: 1557986894
• ISBN13: 9781557986894
• Release Date: January 2000
• Publisher: American Psychological Association (APA)
• Length: 376 Pages
• Weight: 2.21 lbs.
• Dimensions: 1.1" x 7.2" x 10.6"

Customer Reviews

Forgiveness for the Mainstream Clinician

Thanks to "Helping Clients Forgive", the concept and process of "forgiveness" are not just for the confessional or the minister's office any more. I find much to recommend to clinicians- as well as pastoral caregivers and educators- about Enright and Fitzgibbons' book.First, it is the fruit of many years of multidisciplinary reflection on an extensive review of both practical (clinical and pastoral) and theoretical sources. The conceptual understanding of forgiveness is based on an extensive review of both the social (e.g., psychology and sociology) and speculative (philosophy and theology) sciences. Second, Helping Clients Forgive fits into and expands the broader and better known clinical approaches to the management and resolution of anger and to overcoming emotional trauma. The book describes how "forgiveness" may be an effective, and sometimes indispensable, means for dealing with anger when awareness, understanding, assertive expression, or sublimation of the anger have proven inadequate for resolving it. Third, I found the book insightfully reviews research about anger as a cause or co-morbid difficulty of a wide range of DSM-IV disorders. Whether a clinician ever encourages a client- or a client attempts- to use forgiveness to try to resolve the anger associated with these conditions, I think that this knowledge about the prevalence of anger associated with so many problems presented by clients is invaluable.Fourth, many clients have a religious world-view and tend to view forgiveness as a moral duty- and sometimes an anxious compulsion. I think that reading Helping Clients Forgive will enable clinicians (pastors, et al.) to respect their clients' values and worldview while explaining what emotional and other psychological factors make it difficult to forgive, and even more important, how to forgive. I think that the phases of forgiveness and the ways of forgiving during each phase will help guide a religious client's efforts to forgive and to relieve any inauthentic guilt about lingering resentment despite past efforts to forgive. Fifth, the authors write with intellectual humility about a process that offers significant benefits, yet is commonly long, uncomfortable and sometimes paradoxical. Enright and Fitzgibbons write about when and how forgiveness is possible. They acknowledge that while an empathic understanding of and beneficence toward the "offender" may be the ultimate outcome, the forgiveness process may and often must begin with the self-interested need to overcome the personal costs of repressed or suppressed resentment. For me, the discussions on helping clients understand what healthy or authentic anger is, and even more what forgiveness is not, are especially insightful. For example, victims of emotional trauma or long-term offenses can be reassured by learning that forgiveness does not mean unassertively tolerating another's irrational anger or attempting to reconcile or otherwise trust past offenders who remain insensi

Great book that does not confuse forgiveness and pardon

This book is valuable for many reasons. One in particular is that it does not confuse forgiveness and pardon. For some people (fewer now than 20 years ago, based on what people are saying in print) forgiveness was equated with: 1) judging the wrongdoer guilty; 2) reducing or eliminating their sentence (or foregoing collecting what is owed); and 3) restoring them to full legal standing in the community. This is *pardon,* not forgiveness. Philosophers and psychologists have now come to realize that pardon is not the same thing as forgiveness. One can pardon someone and be a judge----not even the one who was hurt. One can pardon someone and be quite neutral about that person, even harboring resentment as you reduce their deserved punishment or forego what is owed. (For example, one might forego what is owed because of harsh judgement that the wrongdoer is morally incapable of repayment.) Forgiveness, instead, is the costly process of struggling to love someone who has hurt you. It is neither cheap nor superficial. Once a person has achieved even a little of this love, then he or she is free to express that love as he or she wishes to the offender. Enright and Fitzgibbons are aware of this. That is why they do not prescribe precisely what a forgiver is to say or do toward a forgiven person. What the forgiver says or does will differ substantially in each encounter. Certainly, the authors expect the forgiver to reach out to the offender when this is appropriate. Forgiveness is not only an internal process. The authors are very clear that forgiveness includes thinking, feeling and *behaving.* They are also clear that forgiveness does have certain meaning and not others. They actually take great pains to review the ancient literature on the topic from Hebrew, Christian, Buddhist, and other sources. Further, they painstakingly review the modern scholarship in philosophy, showing the overlap in the meaning of forgiveness between the ancient and the modern views. Joanna North's philosophy, in particular, dovetails brilliantly with the ancient and the modern scholarship. That she was not widely known before Enright and Fitzgibbons began to cite her work is no argument at all against what she *says.* Enright and Fitzgibbons have done their homework and have presented an accurate picture. Clients and patients are the ones who gain from this careful scholarship.

Psychology & Christian Ethics Agree

I am deeply impressed by this work, which is well written and (so far as I can judge) methodologically sound. The authors avoid jargon and provide a straightforward statement of their theory as well as clear factual descriptions and treatment guidelines. They manifest command of an extensive psychological literature, are cautious in making claims for forgiveness therapy, and encourage further research in the hope that it will correct their findings if necessary and refine patient care.I noticed nothing in the work touching on my own field (Christian ethics) that even seems questionable. And, of course, psychological evidence that forgiveness is conducive to mental health is perfectly harmonious with Christian moral teaching that calls for love of enemies and forgiveness.The fact that this fine work was published, not by some commercial press, but by the American Pscyhological Association commends it to serious readers.

Fantastic insight into forgiveness

This scholarly, yet inviting, book is a must for those suffering from anger (resulting from abusive relationships, excessive personal pride, and depression). The book includes insights from philosophy, medicine, psychology, and "practical" every-day experiences. Even though it seems the authors wrote the book for counselors and psychologists, I found the book helpful (as a layman) to recover from feelings of depression and fear.Those suffering from excessive, overbearing and abusive relationships (either parents, spouses or friends) would find the book especially warm and engaging. The chapter on describing the ideas and benefits of "forgiveness therapy" are well-written. The chapters on detailing case studys on the application of "forgiveness therapy" are the most interesting. The authors detail forgiveness in eating disorders, forgiveness in depression, forgivenss in anxiety disorders, forgiveness in family relationships, etc.Essentially this book provides a framework for recovery where others, such as Alice Miller, don't do. Ms. Miller would learn a lot from reading this book. Overall, congratulations on a fine book. I commend the two authors wholeheartedly!

New Hope for the Angry

This excellent book will be welcomed by all who deal with anger, either personally or in loved ones. It is a book so well and so clearly written that anyone will profit from it -- layperson or professional. The book's genius lies not only in a profound understanding of the nature and consequences of anger, but in a practical and realistic way of resolving that anger. This is the best treatment of the topic that I have read in thirty years.