Getting Your Sex Life Off to a Great Start: A Guide for Engaged and Newlywed Couples

by Clifford L. Penner, Joyce J. Penner, Joyce L. Penner, et al.

Book Overview

Many couples put more planning into the wedding ceremony than they do for what comes after the wedding. Intelligent, deliberate preparation for a lifetime of sexual leasure is a worthy investment you... This description may be from another edition of this product.

• Format: Paperback
• Language: English
• ISBN: 0849935156
• Release Date: November 1994
• Publisher: Thomas Nelson
• Length: 256 Pages
• Weight: 0.77 lbs.
• Dimensions: 9.0" x 0.8" x 6.0"

Customer Reviews

Sensitive, Informative, and helpful

We've been preparing for our wedding and marriage (well, mostly the marriage, but wedding prep has to happen some time) and we've read a few books on sex. This was the best book so far. It's very informative and frank without being offensive. Some readers may find the Penners a tad too liberal (if they can't find a Scriptural command for or against something, they generally leave it up to the reader), but I found them dead-on. The book starts with the necessary relational foundation for sex and leads into the technical how-tos. The beginning of the book starts out like a pre-marital counseling session. My fiance and I have done our share, so we tried to do some of the exercises, but found them a bit repetitive (we did similar things in counseling) and fluffy (I wanted a book that just spelled everything out). Don't read through this book and put it down after the first few chapters, however. Especially if you don't like fluff. They are necessary building blocks to a fantastic sexual relationship and the Penners emphasize again and again that a good relationship that is open and honest and free is necessary for a healthy sex life. The rest of the book is pretty straight forward. The next few chapters explain the body parts involved in sex, and then explains the technical how-tos. Their explanations were very good and the emphasis was continually on not just having good technique -- but having a good relationship. Then they explain everything about the honeymoon -- how to plan a successful honeymoon and what [not] to expect on the first night. They really emphasize that couples should have few expectations so they won't be let down. They also explain how to maintain the sex life after the honeymoon. This book mirrors The Gift of Sex - both are great resources. I read this book in conjunction with Intended for Pleasure and I really enjoyed both books. I found this book was a little clearer and easier to understand, so if you have a choice of only one book to buy, I recommend this. However, if you can buy and read both, try to read Intended for Pleasure first (it's more technical and a bit drier) and then read this one. Or read them together. Both are great resources. I'm stil waiting to put knowledge into practice, but until then...

Wonderful Insight

I am the Executive Director of ParadiseWeddings.org a premiere destination wedding service located in Honolulu, Hawaii. I recently attended a conference with Dr. Cliff & Joyce Penner where I was introduced to this book for the first time. After reading this book, I purchased 100 copies of it and have begun giving them out to all of our clients so they can read it before we perform their wedding ceremony. This is absolutely the best reference that I have found in my 15 years of performing marriages and conducting couples counseling to answer some hard to ask questions from Christians about sex. I hope that Every new couple has a chance to read this book before they are married. It just may save many marriages.

A Real Treat

I just bought this book recently, and I think it's just great. I'm engaged, and although I'm not completely inexperienced, I was wondering what to do on my wedding night. This book is the best that I've read so far. They lay it all out, as naked as you'll be on your honeymoon! The authors don't skirt around their complete discussion of different sexual topics. Although this is definitely a Christian book, you never get the feeling that the authors are moralizing or condemning you for things you have done in your past, or choose to do in your marriage. The drawings are very dry and clinical, and the text needs some editing. However, this still doesn't detract from the overall quality of the book. Especially if you're a virgin and are a little apprehensive of the first time, I would highly recommend this book.

Great information for first timers!

I liked this book a lot because it gives informationabout sex from a Christian perspective. Unlike otherbooks on sex, it gives detailed information aboutthe first time, how to prepare for your honeymoon,the first night together, etc. It even gives adviceabout how to prepare physically for that night. Veryinformative.

Finally an informative and biblical volume on sex!

Its refreshing to see a book based on scripture, which doesn't beat around the bush concerning this sensitive subject. Penner and Penner cover a variety of areas. This would make a great wedding gift for any couple.