Get Your Loved One Sober: Alternatives to Nagging, Pleading, and Threatening

by Brenda L. Wolfe and Robert J. Meyers

Book Overview

The first general consumer book ever on the powerful, award-winning, scientifically proven new system of intervention that is turning the recovery field on its head.

Historically there have been few options available for individuals seeking help for treatment-resistant loved ones suffering from substance abuse. Co-author Dr. Robert Meyers spent ten years developing a treatment program that helps concerned significant others improve the...

• Format: Paperback
• Language: English
• ISBN: 1592850812
• ISBN13: 9781592850815
• Release Date: December 2003
• Publisher: Hazelden Publishing & Educational Services
• Length: 240 Pages
• Weight: 0.75 lbs.
• Dimensions: 0.7" x 5.3" x 8.3"

Customer Reviews

Keep the Faith

I am so happy to recommend this book! I was looking for a better way to get my friend into treatment and found some of the latest research on HBO's website for their series, "Addiction". The HBO website has video clips that describe the CRAFT method and how it is proven to be the most effective, so I bought this book with high hopes. My friend decided he was ready for detox within a week of using this approach. I am grateful for tips like watching for a window and planning for treatment in advance. CRAFT is about empowerment with positive reinforcement - without anger or judgment. This book shows how important it is to avoid shame and guilt about addiction. I wish I could give this book to everyone in Al-Anon. Al-Anon was not offering anything but a support group for feeling OK about doing nothing - "Letting Go". It did not make sense to detach from my alcoholic friend and wait for him to hit a new bottom. I did not want to isolate him further or fall back into enabling and this book explained how to take action in a healthy way. Thank you to the authors - and to HBO for promoting CRAFT. Why isn't this more talked about?

I know it works..you must work it!

I have been using this program for 9 months. I know it works for me and see great progress with my afflicted one. It is uplifting, gives me hope and encouragement, and makes sense. I read passages I have underlined almost every day. I learn something almost every day. This struggle is not easy and this book helps me a great deal.

Life/Marrige saver

This book has been very helpful. It promotes fixing the problem BEFORE hitting rock-bottom. I have used some strategies and I have been successful so far. It is, of course, a process that takes time, but this book gives hope. I highly recommend this book to anyone who lives with an alcoholic but isn't ready to hit rock-bottom with them. These strategies take effort on the readers part, but it is worth it.

A brave new approach

For anyone who has struggled with the helplessness and the pain of loving an alcoholic, this is the book for you. Meyers and Wolfe lay out a definitive and realistic plan of ACTION. Finally someone has the courage to say "You CAN help your loved ones." This unique approach has the potential to give new hope to so many. Thank you to these authors.

Insightful, cutting edge help for those with family problems

This book provides practical real-world direction for dealing with painful, frustrating situations involving substance using family members. I would recommend this book to anyone who has a family member who won't get help for their addiction. It is easy to read and gives clear direction for real world problems.