Forgive to Live: How Forgiveness Can Save Your Life

by Dick Tibbits

Book Overview

Everyone has a "grievance story" -we've all been hurt or rejected by someone who mattered to us. Enter forgiveness. Unfortunately, while most of us have been told to forgive, we've never been told how or why to forgive. But in his medically acclaimed book Forgive to Live, and now in this workbook, Dr. Dick Tibbits demonstrates that understanding and practicing forgiveness can literally save your life! Dr. Tibbits' pioneering research has revealed...

• Format: Paperback
• Language: English
• ISBN: 1591454719
• ISBN13: 9781591454717
• Release Date: January 2006
• Publisher: Integrity Pub
• Length: 156 Pages
• Weight: 0.65 lbs.
• Dimensions: 9.0" x 0.5" x 6.8"

Customer Reviews

Best Relationship Book!

This is an excellent book for dealing with relationships. No matter if it is a parent-child relationship, siblings relationship, or romantic relationship, this book brings healing to all relationships. I highly recommend it and have passed it on to several friends.

A Life Changing Book

I have used this book as a tool for teaching, counseling, and life coaching, and I can attest to the wisdom that Dr Tibbits brings to our understanding of forgiveness. A special quality of this book is that it is spiritual without being sectarian. I am also especially grateful for Dr Tibbits' expanding our understanding of what forgiveness is: a process of the reframing the past. I highly recommend this book.

Learning what forgiveness is

This book has helped me tremendously! After ending a 3 year relationship, I was at odds with how to move on. This book gave me some great tips as well as teaching me the importance of forgiving, so that I can benefit. The best thing the book explains is why forgiveness doesn't equal forget. I highly recommend this book to anyone who is dealing with a breakup or relationship issues.

Very useful and not a bad read

There's a lot to like about this book. It's a quick read with a strong message you can't miss. By learning about the 3 levels of forgiveness and the steps to achieving them you'll be able to get rid of your grievance story (which the author claims everyone has) that is holding you back most in life. There are even some health benefits like lowering blood pressure and stress levels. The thing I liked about it was the author didn't just say, "Hey, you need to forgive people" - True, I learned that as a kid. But he gives the specific steps he used to teach the group that went through his clinical study how to forgive. The author gives 10 Principles of Forgiveness. Here are the first five: 1. Accept that life is not fair and that others may play by a different set of rules than you do. 2. Stop blaming others for your circumstances. 3. Understand that you cannot change the person who hurt you; you can only change yourself. 4. Acknowledge the anger and hurt that some unpleasant or even harmful even is causing you. 5. Reframe your story of hurt--your "grievance story"--by placing the hurtful events in a broader context than your current point of view. There are five more principles, but you get the idea. The new clinical research the author did for the book seems to have paid off. The steps he suggests can be a painful (you have to review things that make you angry), but the results are powerful. Overall, it's probably one of the most useful books on forgiveness around. Other good reads on the topic are Lewis Smedes book called "Forgive & Forget" and Redford Williams book called "Anger Kills". But the clinical study behind this book makes it stand out. Finally, if you're thinking of buying this book you might like to know that the author gives some exercises / activities at the end of each chapter. Some are better than others. I liked the Anger Test from chapter 3 and the Grievance Story Toxicity assessment from chapter 5. The author even gives an amusing parable about forgiveness at the beginning of the book called "Drop the Rock". One more thing, there's a discussion guide in the back of the book. For each chapter there are 8-10 questions that could be used to get people talking about the things covered in the chapter. Probably a useful tool if you run a support group or some other kind of small group.