For Mothers of Difficult Daughters: How to Enrich and Repair the Relationship in Adulthood

by Charney Herst and Lynette Padwa

Book Overview

The first mother-daughter book for mothers, featuring a new Afterword and a Reading Group Discussion Guide

, Do you long for a better relationship with your daughter?
, Do you occasionally feel as though you have failed as a mother?
, Do you blame yourself because your relationship with your daughter is strained, faltering,
or nonexistent?
, Do you feel that the relationship is unchangeable and that there is no chance that it...

• Format: Paperback
• Language: English
• ISBN: 0375753184
• ISBN13: 9780375753183
• Release Date: February 1999
• Publisher: Villard Books
• Length: 324 Pages
• Weight: 0.76 lbs.
• Dimensions: 0.8" x 6.2" x 8.6"

Customer Reviews

For Mothers of Difficult Daughters...A great read!!!

This book was very helpful in many ways. I thought it was very up to date with today's parent and adult child thought patterns and reads very nicely. It offered various alternatives to reconnect with your adult daughter whether she lives with you or has been out of your life for years. It offered various strategies for many types of situations that sounded reasonable and workable for both parties. It also helped solidify several areas I was already working on; some of those areas were to stop asking questions, stop offering unsolicited advice, and get involved in your own life. Overall, I found it very helpful and highly recommend it.

Reading this book repaired our relationship

How could I explain one child that was easy to get along with and another child that was not? They were raised the same way. I made parenting mistakes, but there weren't severe. Our home was loving, our marriage healthy, the children loved. Why was it so hard? This book offers solace to mother's who feel lost and terribly saddened by their difficult relationship with their daughter. It also offers excellent tips for improving your relationship with your daughter, without blaming either party. In my case, it was as simple as learning to hold back on offering advice and learning how to make sympathetic noises instead. Within just a few months, her screaming outbursts had stopped and I was no longer being wounded. One and a half years later, my daughter calls me her best friend. I learned how we all have a "perfect" daughter imagined in our mind and we must let go of those images and learn to love who our daughter is. It sounds simple, but it is not. People are born with different personalities and some people are naturally prickly and irritable. I appreciate the author who helped me see this and helped me see that I did not fail the daughter I love so much.

Terrific! It helped me!

As a mother of a very difficult eighteen year old daughter, I found this book to be direct, honest and very helpful. I felt very alone and upon ready I realized that I was not alone at all. The upset and pain was easier to handle just knowing that other Mother's had been through similar situations. I would strongly recommend this book to anyone who has a daughter.

Enjoyed the book greatly

For Mothers of Difficult Daughters is especially touching to me for a number of reasons. First, it offers practical analysis on types of mother/daugher relationships that are difficult. Second, it provides guidelines. How should mothers and daughters should act toward one another when their relationship is strained? Thirdly, Dr. Charney Herst is my Aunt and makes reference to experiences and a town in Maine that are near and dear to my heart. I'm proud of her work and found the book non-technical, informative, energetic, to the point, with worthwhile guidance. Whether your relationship with Mom or Mom's relationship with you is wonderful or strained, "For Mothers Of Difficult Daughters" is well worth reading.