For Keeps: Women Tell the Truth about Their Bodies, Growing Older, and Acceptance

by Victoria Zackheim

Book Overview

Nearly every aging woman has a complicated relationship with her body. For Keeps, an inspirational collection of personal essays from writers on their ever-changing bodies, will resonate with every maturing woman.

Editor Victoria Zackheim brings together women with unique voices who have all struggled, at one time or another, to make peace with the bodies that at times they don't even recognize as their own. From a mastectomy that...

• Format: Paperback
• Language: English
• ISBN: 1580052045
• ISBN13: 9781580052047
• Release Date: November 2007
• Publisher: Seal Press (CA)
• Length: 256 Pages
• Weight: 0.90 lbs.
• Dimensions: 0.9" x 5.7" x 8.2"

Customer Reviews

For Keeps

I thought this would be a fun, light read (the cover is misleading) but it turned out to be one of the most beautiful collections of women's stories I've read in a long time. It's an anthology of various kinds of challenges women have experienced with some aspect of their health, and how they met the challenges. Beautiful writing. I read the book twice, which I rarely tak the time to do.

Laugh, Cry & Accept the Truth

I love this book. I've laughed harder than I have in a long time & have cried over how well I relate to the women in this book. It is about truth, and as much as I hate the truth sometimes, I can't deny that the women author's contributing to this book are speaking the truth directly to me. I recommend this book for all women and the men in their lives that wish to better understand them.

Body Truths

For Keeps is not an easy book to read. It is not about pretty women with perfect bodies who find easy acceptance in a beauty-obsessed culture. No. It is an impolite, impertinent, irreverent collection of essays written by twenty-seven much-published and gifted writers who are not afraid to tell the truth about the imperfect bodies they have learned to live in--and learned to love. These are hard truths. "My Mother's Body Image, My Self" (Sara Nelson), tells us that our obsessions about the size and shape and appearance of our bodies are often taught to us by our mothers--who may have been obsessed with their own bodies. An unhealthy preoccupation with physical image and the desire to use bodies to please men can be passed from mother to daughter. "Dead Bone" (Aimee Liu) is the story of a young woman who became first an anorexic, then an "exercise zealot" for whom physical suffering was a path to perfection. A series of disabling injuries at least teaches her a necessary lesson. "My body finally, definitively, forced the message over my perverse will: I could no longer afford the fallacy that pain would make me better." "What I Gave Up" (Ellen Sussman) follows the life of a woman who (pushed by her father) went from being a "killer tennis player" to being a compulsive competitive runner to the practice of yoga--each transition accompanied by the rupture of a spinal disk. Now facing her third spinal fusion, Sussman can say, "What I hope for is this: that I can live in this body without pain; that I can use it as well as I'm able to; and that my mind can accept these changes with the grace of an athlete." It's a prayer that we might all etch on our bathroom mirrors. Victoria Zackheim, the editor of this splendid and often unsettling anthology, remarks in her introduction that most of us spend our lives "worrying more about taut stomachs than about healthy aging" and care more "about society's expectations than our own personal growth." But the women who contributed to this collection show us that it is possible to face our imperfections and confront the daunting prospect of aging in a culture that places a high premium on youth. "It's a new experience, living in a body that feels old," writes Joy Price in "Making Love and Joy in Seasoned Bodies." "My body surprises me every day: What parts will and won't work today?" And yes, we are asked to own up to death. One of my favorites, "Death Becomes Her," begins with the Monty Python line, "Cake? or Death?" In it, Louisa Ermelino writes about the nearly simultaneous deaths of her mother and her husband. How does a daughter, a wife, live through something so impossible, so terrible? With grace, with compassion, with humor, with love. At the end, Ermelino writes: "I have a vision. My mother is at the stove; my husband is at the kitchen table. The sun is coming in the window. She is making him something to eat. Cake, please..." Several of the writers had to confront the terrifying prospect of thei