Facing Codependence: What It Is, Where It Comes from, How It Sabotages Our Lives

by Pia Mellody, J. Keith Miller, Andrea Wells Miller

Book Overview

The groundbreaking bestseller on codependence--with more 600,000 copies sold--is now revised and updated to reflect more than 15 years of research and clinical work at the renowned Meadows... This description may be from another edition of this product.

• Format: Paperback
• Language: English
• ISBN: 0062505890
• Release Date: April 2003
• Publisher: Harper & Row
• Length: 222 Pages
• Weight: 0.77 lbs.
• Dimensions: 9.0" x 0.7" x 6.0"

Customer Reviews

Hello awareness

If you like your bubble of denial don't read this because it will rip those rose shades from your eyes.

Life Changing

I have had this book in my library for years. It changed my life. As I ready it, I felt like Pia was writing about me and everyone I know who has read it…says the same thing. It helped me stop the constant needless giving to others at the cost of ME. This book is worth every penny you spend on it! You are so worth it!

This book changed my life - better than similar titled

I read a lot of books with similar titles to this one. But this one is dramatically different in the sense that it (for me) correctly identified that the condition I live with is all about me... and that it lives and operates in me without having anything to do with anyone else - except that the actions of others can trigger me. I feel that a lot of other books on codependence seem to invoke depictions of "someone that supports and enables another person's destructive habits". I would judge that to be a tiny subset of the behaviour, and not much to do with the problem at all. Pia describes how it is really a disease of impaired emotional maturaty as a result of abuse suffered during childhood. (And by abuse, it doesn't take terrible beatings to do the damage and create the condition). She then describes all the symptoms and issues that it creates in our lives. For me, it was like looking in a mirror. The key point I wanted to present is that this book is different. I strongly believe that other addictions are medications to help mask and dull the pain that comes from codependence. I have purchased five copies of it now... I keep giving it away.

Best Book Describing CoDependency

I couldn't put this book down after reading the first 5 pages. It described my experience so vividly. I was shocked and scared. This book describes why and how codependents come about. It describes the causes as well as the symptoms. Majority of it has to do with our childhood experience, especially with the caregivers.Unlike one reviewer, I do not think this book "bashes" the parents. Parents naturally account for most responsibilities when we were children. After we learned about these, we have to nurture the gratitute and know that our parents did the best they knew.The book offers excellent coverage among all of the causes, symtoms, and some recovery strategies.For more information on recovery, one should read Pia's newest book "Intimacy Factor" for more information, and "Breaking Free" for step by step workbook. Attending local CoDependency Anonymous (CoDA) meetings also helped me, but not as much as Pia's books.I've read all three of Pia's books. I am so grateful Pia would spend the time and energy to write these books. They helped me tremandeously. I highly recommend Pia's books.

Read At Your Own Risk!

Read this book/listen to this tape at your own risk~Pia Mellody has written a book that WILL NOT allow you to continue to live in the comfortable wallow of your own misery. Easy listening/reading? No. Ms. Mellody asks hard questions, demands honesty, and shows you the true face of the person who looks back at you from the mirror-your own self. You cannot read this book or listen to the tape and then ignore the message. Mellody's words stick with you like sidewalk gum on the heel of your shoe. You gotta sit down, shut up, and pay attention to what she has to say, or suffer the uncomfortable consequences of knowing that you have chosen to turn away from the truth. If you put Ms. Mellody's philosophies into action in your own life, you WILL find the freedom to live with joy. You WILL find the path to real maturity. You WILL learn to take responsibility for yourself and your actions...and you will learn to let others take responsibility for themselves. There are hundreds of self-help books available...save your money to buy this one, and do what Pia Mellody tells you to do. It works.