Excess Baggage: 2getting Out of Your Own Way

by Judith Sills

Book Overview

Maybe you always have to finish what you start--from a book to a dismal marriage. Or your mother is always there when you need her--but sometimes you wish she had somewhere else to go. Each of us has... This description may be from another edition of this product.

• Format: Hardcover
• Language: English
• ISBN: 0670840629
• ISBN13: 9780670840625
• Release Date: January 1993
• Publisher: Viking Books
• Length: 276 Pages
• Weight: 1.20 lbs.
• Dimensions: 1.0" x 6.3" x 9.3"

Customer Reviews

You'll see yourself here

Judith Sills' astonishing EXCESS BAGGAGE will make you think the author has been spying on you. In describing the five major personality types, she provides such a wealth of detail that you'll find yourself gasping or whooping as you recognize yourself, your family members, friends and colleagues. Best of all, she provides real, concrete ways to "get out of your own way" and modify your behavior in a variety of situations. The lessons can be difficult (isn't change always hard?), but are well worth applying if you're interested in making fundamental changes. HIGHLY recommended for anyone interested in learning more about themselves and others. The advice Sills offers comes from years of counseling experience, and is provided in a nonsensical, easily understood way that maximizes your chances of putting these lessons to work in your own life.

Find the real you and why you are that way

The BEST self help book I have ever read. It not only tells you, who you are, but why you are that way. Great for those who think they have to be in total control,because no matter how much you want control, you can't have total control, and have a productive life

An Accurate Mirror and a Makeover Kit, Period!

Appropriately named, the author's interpretations of the problems of human nature boils down to the vary basics of our own personality - the facade we create for ourselves. More often than not we tend to paint an inaccurate picture of ourselves far removed from reality and that is the real stumbling factor in our way to be better humans. The more we understand the accurate pattern we all project to others and to ourselves, we better we will be in realizing the "excess baggage", the emotional load we throw at others. I was pleasantly surprised at the way this book analyzes and portrays the human behavioural patterns. It has three simple steps to make you feel more worthy of living - identify the pattern you are protraying for yourself, identify the real you and make corrections to make them together. The author must have gone through rigorous research and observations before writing this book and made our tasks simpler to look at a mirror, of our own reflections. I initially got the book from the library but decided to own it for my own reference, and for others.

The Best Work on the Self-Help Shelf

This is the most useful book I have ever owned. Where other self-help classics catch a piece of the internal puzzle, Sills somehow sees the greater picture. Most importantly, Sills understands that basic human truth-- that what we are is sometimes our greatest blessing and sometimes our greatest curse. The book offers understanding and practical advice for finding balance, rather than offering abstract notions for "fixing" some personality flaw. Buy this book and Scott Peck's The Road Not Taken, and you won't need any other self-help book in the store

Get right to the core of what makes you tick ... and fix it.

This book is by far the BEST, most enlightening self-help book I have ever read. After digesting its contents, I felt as if a veil were lifted from my eyes. Excess Baggage made me analyze my personality and discover how to identify self-imposed burdens and stop making myself and my loved ones crazy! The theme woven throughout its pages is that we all trip over our own personalities and unconsciously make life harder than it has to be. It probes the reader by presenting an array of specific personality profiles along with their baggage. For example: being a perfectionist is an asset in the career arena, but the strong inner drive to have everything go just perfectly is a liability in social settings. The natural, unconscious tendency is to try to control ALL variables in life, which creates rigidity and grates on the nerves of the people in our lives. Dr. Judith Sills hits the nail on the head with this doctrinal truth: our greatest weaknesses are always the flip side our our greatest strengths. But Excess Baggage is not just a diagnostic manual -- it is the prescription for recovery! Practical and very detailed exercises are outlined to teach the perfectionist how to "let go," the worrier to take risks, the intensely emotional to tone down, the angry to replace his core with love, and so on. Studying this book and applying Dr. Sills' advice has been the most liberating event of my adult life. This new awareness and the changes it has produced make me feel like, in the words of the author, I have "taken off a pair of shoes two sizes too small"! Excess Baggage should be in the library of every person interested in improving the very essence of his being