Erotic Surrender: The Sensual Joys of Female Submission

by Claudia Varrin

Book Overview

In an age of liberated sexuality, sexually submissive women often feel misunderstood or ignored. Now, Claudia Varrin, professional dominatrix and a private submissive, shatters the myths about S & M relationships and emphasizes the emotional and physical benefits that can be derived from sensual submission. Erotic Surrender guides you toward a newfound sexual enrichment that can heighten intimacy and trust between partners, inside and outside the...

• Format: Paperback
• Language: English
• ISBN: 0806524006
• ISBN13: 9780806524009
• Release Date: February 2003
• Publisher: Citadel Press
• Length: 250 Pages
• Weight: 0.88 lbs.
• Dimensions: 0.6" x 6.1" x 8.8"

Customer Reviews

Well written and helpful

As an "interested", I was looking for some books to get more serious and realistic information about the BD/SM culture and what the various practices really were (not what I imagined them to be). This book I found to be very well written by a woman who obviously know what she's talking about. She explains things in clear, simple, real and easy to understand language, and shares her own experiences. Through this book I was able to understand much more about this life-style, and about my own fascination with it. It helped to relativate some of my own misperceptions and prejudices and to understand more what was going on within myself. I recommend this book highly to those interested in learning more about this lifestyle. Very helpful!!!

Excellent resource

For women exploring their sexuality and desires that some may consider "differnt" Erotic Surrender will answer your questions and help you and your partner on your journey. I thank Claudia Varrin for writting this and her other books as well. I have learned so much about who I am.

Take a Step Into Your Secret Garden...

Have you had a conventional, ordinary, "vanilla" sex life, but feel somewhat unfilled? Have you had thoughts, fantasies, or desires to be tied up, or otherwise dominated? Do you find these thoughts exciting on one hand, but feel guilty, perverted, or ashamed on the other? Erotic Surrender: The Sensual Joys of Female Submission is the assurance and answers to all those secret questions and desires you've kept tucked and hidden away in your mind and heart. In the first chapters, Claudia Varrin gently helps you identify if you have a submissive side to your sexuality. This is an excellent help to know if SM is something that truly interests you, before going any further in your reading or discovery. This also helps you to gain a sense of assurance and even excitement about feelings that may have left you feeling shameful in the past. She gives refreshing assurance that your hidden thoughts and desires of submissive intimacy are not perverted, or something to hide and be ashamed of. She then guides in discovering your submissive "Secret Garden" with healthy understanding and self-confidence, sharing openly her own early feelings and discoveries. This section of the book is truly an opportunity see yourself with an honest, refreshing, new perspective. Varrin then covers a wealth of helpful advice and information on how to talk to your partner, if you desire, with open and productive communication. If your husband is unaware of your interest in SM, this book gives excellent advice for your situation. She addresses ways to comfortably first initiate conversation to a partner that may be unexpecting and unaware of your interest in SM, going over what to expect, different reactions, how to respond, and how to really open up about your sexual interests and explore them together. What fun! Once you've established and admitted your submissiveness to yourself (and if applicable, your partner) Varrin then covers safe, sane, and consensual play. She covers public and private BDSM etiquette and helpful advice whether you want to keep your play to the bedroom, or in meeting in the public SM scene. A resource list of groups, organizations, books, publications, shops, and magazines is included. Her writing style is open, non-threatening, and personable, allowing you as the reader to explore and discover all at your own pace and desire. Aside from all the informative and useful information, she also includes a nice splattering of her own experiences and her fictional short stories just to spark your interest, or help in bringing your fantasies to life...incase you don't have enough ideas of your own! ;) The book is well-written, hardcover with a glossy dust jacket, quality binding and paper. Experienced submissives will likely not discover new material in this book, although it could still be an enjoyable read for you. A few have written reviews for this book and rated it as disappointing. It is important to keep in mind that this book is writt

Sensual Submission for Women by a Woman

After having read, and loved, Claudia's first book, "The Art of Sensual Female Dominance," I couldn't wait to read "Erotic Surrender." And it was well worth the wait. Claudia is a woman who writes specifically for women and she speaks to them from the depths of her s/m heart. This wonderful book is not for men, or for those who are already at ease with their submissive sides; rather it is clearly written for the vanilla woman who is seeking a better understanding her submissive desires. "Erotic Surrender" fully succeeds in that goal. Claudia's writings left no doubt in my mind that she lived these experiences and loved them. I found her willingness to share the most intimate details of her submissive relationship with her British master to be truly remarkable; she exposed her soul to us in a way many others would not have the courage or insight to do. I especially loved the story entitled "Bride of the God", in "Masochism," chapter nine. This book receives my highest recommendation.

A sumptuous read

I found this to be a meticulous exploration of chivalrous female submission right down to what shoes to wear and what words to say. It includes a very enlightening epilogue about how BDSM can lead to greater spiritual awareness. I felt it all made very enjoyable reading.