Doesn't Anyone Blush Anymore?: Reclaiming Intimacy, Modesty, and Sexuality

by Manis Friedman

Book Overview

The central theme of this book is modesty, a notion so simple and common that most of us would dismiss it as irrelevant to our daily lives. But Rabbi Manis Friedman asks us to look again. And as we do... This description may be from another edition of this product.

• Format: Hardcover
• Language: English
• ISBN: 0060630299
• ISBN13: 9780060630294
• Release Date: October 1990
• Publisher: HarperOne
• Length: 113 Pages
• Weight: 0.70 lbs.
• Dimensions: 0.7" x 5.7" x 8.5"

Customer Reviews

Modesty as a personal experience. Persuasive. Great read.

While comparisons to Return to Modesty and Kosher Sex are expected, this book differs in several ways. First, Manis Friedman never had a doubt that a modest lifestyle is better for someone's mental and spiritual health and second, he's not just talking about sex. The third difference is that he's not so much talking about a broad sweeping movement as much as a method of helping individuals get their lives on track.Manis Friedman is one of the celebrities of the Lubavitcher movement and his writing and lectures exemplify why the Lubavitch movement is one of the most successful in reaching out to Jews unimpressed with observance. The operating procedure seems to imply "you think it's all going to be too hard for you? It doesn't fit your personality? Well, let's start small and see what you do feel comfortable with".In this book Manis Friedman doesn't talk about the sexual mores at first. He knows that people see them as hopelessly outdated and Victorian. Instead he talks about modesty as an all encompassing part of the relationship. In his sermons, he helps to sensitize the reader to avoid little things that couples do all the time like arguing in public, making snide remarks when their partner argues with the clerk at the grocery store, etc. Through these stories and examples he gives a very intriguing and real picture of what a marriage could be and how it can be still romantic and fresh forever instead of for the first decade.By the time he starts talking about the sexual rules of modesty, you are with him. You want the kind of relationship that he describes and if that means you wait until you get married to even touch a woman, so be it. And since this is Judaism, not Catholicism, there is no condemnation of sexuality. It's all about refinining sexuality and making it better than it could ever be in the so-called "swinging single" scene. When Manis Friedman describes a young man who isn't interested in dating or getting married just yet, he even hints at the popular "repressed guy just waiting to release all that pent up energy" fantasy with apparent approval. And just in case, you think that Friedman's ideas based on Halackic Jewish law are terribly repressive and limiting in sexuality, the guy's got 14 kids. He must be doing something right. Read it. You might not agree with it. You might disagree with 90% of what's in this book, but that 10% that you agree with will make you think and make you feel and help you make healthier decisions in your life.

We should add a 6th star for this title alone!

Years ago I heard Paul Harvey say that every American should go out and buy this book. I ignored him. Recently, while staying with a friend, I began reading her copy and couldn't put it down. I am now buying myself a copy.What seems to be a passe perspective on life turns out to be brilliant and understanding. Manis Friedman has a remarkable grasp on the "places" inside us that we try to ignore. His advice for living and loving is unusually sound and his gentle delivery is among the finest.I can't wait to see Manis' next book.

Very, very good book.

I did not agree with everything Manis writes, but his message is so very true. I hope this book start a trend!Manis' platform is one of faith in people and their ability to be good. That is a springboard to all kinds of improvement - and intimacy an sexuality is an area we can all improve in.Well deserved Five Stars.

Uniquely helpful and essential.

If I could give 6 stars, I would. This book is one of the best I've read in years, and is completely essential for anyone who wants to experience true intimacy.

A breath of fresh air! A must for anyone in any relationship

A small and very readable book, it helped me put my life back together after a "low" in my marriage. I wish I had read it before I got married.When Bob Dyan said that "Anyone getting married should read this book" he knew what he was saying!Do yourself and your family a favor, read this book.