Divorce Casualties: Keeping Your Children Close While You're Breaking Apart

by Douglas Darnall

Book Overview

Some parents consciously, blatantly, and even maliciously denigrate their ex-spouse through negative comments and actions. Others simply sigh or tense up at the mention of the targeted parent, causing guilt and anxiety in the children. The result is a child full of hate, fear, and rejection toward an unknowing and often undeserving parent.

Exploring issues such as secrecy, spying, false accusations, threats and discipline, Divorce Casualties...

• Format: Paperback
• Language: English
• ISBN: 1589793765
• ISBN13: 9781589793767
• Release Date: October 2008
• Publisher: Taylor Trade Publishing
• Length: 304 Pages
• Weight: 0.90 lbs.
• Dimensions: 0.9" x 6.0" x 8.9"

Customer Reviews

Exercise!

I actually have a better time reading anything if it has some sort of practical work related to the reading. I enjoyed Dr. Darnall's book because it offers this treat. It is a treat in that you will be surprised at your abilities, or lack thereof, to grasp important information and determine better how to use it. In this book, Divorce Casualties,it opens your practical mind to the depth, height, breadth and width of the subject--how to protect your spouse's , children's and your relationship with each other while going through this, the toughest of times. I have my own sick story, but my being the targeted parent just got more insight because I am learning from this book some things that I did not think were a hazard to my children--that I am responsible for. The execises in the book helped me open that door upstairs that used to only be opened by me. Now, I have a practical list of tips to check myself on when I am with my children, thus, I am able to share my time more effectively with them, and be the strong, loving parent they need. After all, they are the most precious things in our lives. Are they not? If we are not thinking THAT from the opening and the closing of this book, then it will be a waste of our time to read it. You must be able and willing to admit your role in the subject of this book, and, therefore, be willing to make needed changes. It is a great thing to have read this book.

Parental Alienation

This book put into words and explained what was happening to me & my children in my divorce. This book is outstanding and very helpful to anyone who is having trouble seeing their kids or dealing with a spouse who uses the children as a weapon for hurt. This book gives good advice on how to proceed once you have identified that parental alienation is taking place.

WOW!

What a fantastic book! This should be required reading for all divorced parents. If you think you handle divorce and visitaion well, think again! I thought I was doing great with my step-son until I read this book and realized some innocent things that I have said to him are NOT appropriate. What an eye opener. Thank you

An outstanding discussion on Parental Alienation Syndrome

As a parent of a severely emotionally abused PAS child who suddenly turned her love for me into obsessive hatred, I can't recommend this book highly enough. I groped around for years not knowing why or how this could have happened to our once very tender and loving relationship. Now from this book I know why and I know how. Simply put my daughter was abused and poisoned by her mother and others with hatred of me, her father, instead of being instilled with love and respect for her father. This Dr. Darnall points out quite clearly in this masterpiece of a book on this very important subject about parental alienation and parental alienation syndrome. For any parent going through a divorce who truly loves their children and doesn't want them to spend the rest of their lives in pain and suffering over the loss of a parent for no good reason, other than one parent's obsessive hatred of the other, then you must read this book.

Darnall Offers Important Insights on Parental Alientation

Divorce Casualties adds a new dimension to the work that already exists on the topic of parental alienation. Parental alienation involves the phenomenon of parents subjecting their ex-spouse to oftentimes-unwarranted ridicule and rejection at the hands of their own children. The children, in essence, become pawns in a full-scale war launched by the disgruntled, jealous, or possibly vengeful ex-spouse/parent. The unfortunate and extremely damaging events associated with parental alienation have the potential to effectively sever the ex-spouse's relationship with their children, while permanently altering the developmental processes of the children who are entrenched in this unhealthy context.Dr. Darnall's book is easy to read, as well as extremely informative. His use of case studies adds great depth, while ensuring a thorough understanding of the subject-matter. Best of all, regardless of your marital or relational status, this book contains valuable parenting insights targeted at strengthening the relationship that you and your child(ren) share.