When we are alone, our shields can come down. We no longer need to hide behind the many masks we wear. We don't have to waste energy hiding our flaws from others. But in the apparent safety of that solitude, there lurks a trap. Too many of us choose to focus on past traumas and dramas. It's easy to get trapped by the regrets, pains, and failures of the past-and fears of what disappointments may await in the future. Why do we choose to allow...