Custody Chaos, Personal Peace: Sharing Custody with an Ex Who Drives You Crazy

by Jeffrey P. Wittman and Jeffrey P. Wittmann

Book Overview

This empowering guide is an inspirational roadmap for the millions of men and women navigating a rocky relationship with a former spouse-while trying to maintain a healthy atmosphere for their child. Topics include: * The 7 strategies for peace when an ex refuses to change * Skills for taming former in-laws * Ways to help children cope with a difficult parent * Strategies and alternatives for focusing anger * How to avoid hot-button issues * How to...

• Format: Paperback
• Language: English
• ISBN: 0399527109
• ISBN13: 9780399527104
• Release Date: October 2001
• Publisher: Tarcherperigee
• Length: 304 Pages
• Weight: 0.61 lbs.
• Dimensions: 0.8" x 5.1" x 8.1"
• Age Range: 18 years and up
• Grade Range: Grade 12 and higher

Customer Reviews

Great Book with Practical Applications

First of all, I love the title. It certainly describes my situation perfectly and Im sure many readers relate. This book is well written and contains an enormous amount of practical information that I have been able to apply in my life. After all, books are worthless unless I can apply the information I learn from them in my life. Thus, this title is well worth the time. Highly recommended and remember always to put your children as the # 1 priority in your situation.

The only book you need...

If you are navigating the gut-wrenching terrain of shared custody with a difficult ex-spouse, this is the only book you will need. A truly life-changing and empowering read--and a welcome reminder that while we may not be able to change other people, we can always work on ourselves. Filled with beneficial exercises and practical solutions to common problems, this book IMMEDIATELY improved my attitude with regard to my ex-spouse, and while we still have a ways to go at acheiving peace, this book gave me the tools I need to be part of the solution, rather than part of the problem. Highly recommended.

custody chaos, PERSONAL PEACE

I teach a coparenting through and after divorce class so I have purchase several books on coparenting and been disappointed by the same information regurgitated by different authors. This book, while it offers the same basic skills as others, provides a unique perspective that if utilized can lead to personal peace. I imagine it can be difficult for some to read because there is a heavy focus on accepting responsibility for your own thoughts, feelings, and actions and changing your own outlook and behavior to obtain personal peace,(which in turn leads to a more peaceful relationship with your coparent.) The book also asks that you learn to view your coparent differently, as a human being who makes mistakes, but is probably doing the best they can, even providing exercises on forgiveness which could be hard to handle if you have not let go of anger. The book is easy to read, provides real life examples, and summarizes the points to remember at the end of each chapter. Overall, it is a great book I recommend to everybody who attends my classes.

Change your ex!

Well you may not be able to change them but...This practical, common sense guide offers communication techniques that will not only help you deal with a difficult ex-husband or ex wife, but also teaches you how to examine your own role in these sticky situations. This book offered useful advice on how to be civil when the other party is not. This book helps you communicate effectively and stay in control of yourself and your situation. If for no other reason you can learn how to minimize the conflicts between you and your ex that affect your children. This book allows you to put your children's needs first.

An excellent tool for divorced and divorcing parents

I have made this book required reading for my divorce and mediation clients. Dr. Wittmann provides simple, direct strategies which allow struggling parents to focus on what is truly important....raising healthy, well adjusted children. Mediators and divorce attorneys would be doing thier clients a great service by recommending this book!