Charmers and Con Artists: & Their Flip Side...

by Sandra Scott

Book Overview

ABUSERS Is there someone in your life who… Is liked and admired by everyone, but who is privately manipulative, controlling, and abusive? Asks, begs, expects you to forgive and forget the same hurtful... This description may be from another edition of this product.

• Format: Paperback
• Language: English
• ISBN: 1579212883
• ISBN13: 9781579212889
• Release Date: June 2000
• Publisher: Winepress Publishing
• Length: 210 Pages
• Weight: 0.78 lbs.
• Dimensions: 0.6" x 6.0" x 9.0"

Customer Reviews

the first step on the road to recovery

I found Sandra Scott's book when I was searching for insights to help me understand abuse that did not involve physical violence. This book illuminates the thought processes and behaviors that make these relationships dangerous. What makes this book so valuable is that it chronicals how the basic self-serving nature within all people (and YES, we all will do things for our own interest) left unchecked devolves into behaviors and attitudes that are nothing less than full blown abuse. The author states upfront that recovery from this type of abuse is a process unto itself. By showing us how to recognize behaviors and patterns, Sandra has handed us a key to step out of this cycle of abuse. This book invites the reader to recognize the charmer / con-artist within themselves and others. It is said that the journey of 1000 miles begins with a single step. This book is an excellent first step in recovering from an abusive relationship.

Helped me ALOT

This book helped me IMMENSLY in regards as to how to handle a certain family member. In addition there is great fodder here for character building if you're a writer! A real eye opener...especially if you're married to your Knight in Shining Armor (as I am) and haven't been exposed to manipulative, cruel, abusive men.

a must read

I read this book after getting a hand out in a recovery class. The hand out was on Charmers and Con Artist. It had this book title on it. I have never been so glad to have bought a book. If your in an abusive relationship or not you must read this book. You probably know someone who fits the profile and you will save yourself and others a lot of angish. Be enlightened know the signs, read this book. I now know I have been in a relationship with a charmer for the past 11 years and trying to get this charmer out of my life for the past year and a half. It has been hard trying to convince myself and others that this person was not who they pretended to be... I fell in love with who this person wanted to be, who my charmer pretended to be, I wasn't allowed to see the REAL person until it was too late and then I didn't trust what I saw and felt. it seemed no one believed this person could be like that. Too bad I couldn't invite the world behind our doors. But as I read this book I just knew my life was the case study. Thanks to this book, I'm learning to trust my judgements, my gut feelings and just because other people can't see it doesn't mean it isn't there. I lived it, they are watching the made for TV version. Now that I've read this book. I know better what I am dealing with, I can see the charmer characterists in business associates, relatives, they are everywhere. But, now I know what I'm dealing with and I can also see that 'my charmer' is turning the corner to con artist. Knowledge is the best weapon. Read this book and be prepared. You'll be glad you did.

Victims Understand

I would like to address the 'knightofthelance' reviewer. I appreciate your review; however, I think your statement that the author's admisssion that she has also been a victim and that you saw that as tainting her work with bitterness, etc., does not jell with so many other self-help books written by victims who finally 'see the light'. Most victims are encouraged by knowing the author knows whereof he/she speaks. To them, it lends further credibility to the author's understanding of the issue and greater insight to their own experience. I think the other reviews show that. This subject matter may not touch you as deeply if you have not been victimized. While you seem to try to be objective, victims are, of necessity, subjective. The feedback from them is that the message is water in the desert, validation that they are not crazy, and gives a ray of hope for recovery. For them, it is life changing.

This Is One of The Most Important Books You'll Ever Read!

I read this book at the suggestion of my mother who sent one by mail to me with the admonition to drop everything else I was reading and concentrate solely on this. Charmers and con artists are not limited to one gender or the other. At one point or another, each of us has been taken in by a male or female "smooth talker." This book helps you to identify the characteristics so you don't become the same fool twice or even three times for that matter. The tools they use are universal. Discrediting credibility is first. Know that you're not crazy as they may imply. If it doesn't feel "good" then its not good. We need to start paying closer attention to the internal meter. It would save us a lot of headaches and heartaches. I have recommended this book to everyone that I can. I haven't run into anyone yet who didn't identify with what is written on the back cover. The information in this book will help you better understand how not to play into the charmer and con artists' hand. Read this book immediately if not sooner!