Building the Bonds of Attachment: Awakening Love in Deeply Troubled Children

by Daniel A. Hughes

Book Overview

An invaluable resource for students and professionals as well as parents, this text offers a composite case study of one child's development following years of abuse and neglect. Blending theory and... This description may be from another edition of this product.

• Format: Paperback
• Language: English
• ISBN: 0765702371
• ISBN13: 9780765702371
• Release Date: August 2000
• Publisher: Jason Aronson
• Length: 312 Pages
• Weight: 1.06 lbs.
• Dimensions: 0.7" x 6.1" x 9.1"

Customer Reviews

Building the Bonds of Attachment: Awakening Love in Deeply T

Having been raising children with attatchment issues for more than 17 years, I was totally thrilled to find this book. It gave true insight to what one deals with when they choose to raise a child with attachment disorder an describes the child's perspective as well. I have bought 2 copies for myself, so I can loan one out (which I have several times) and I have helped others to order the book so they could learn and help heal these children as well. THANK YOU Dr. Hughes for your good work and commitment to these children with such hurting souls.

Building the Bonds of Attachment

Wow! A GREAT book that is an easy, engaging read yet is informative and realistic about how totally messed up kids can be when they get into the foster care system. I know several Katies and, believe me, there is no exaggeration in the behaviors Hughes describes. I've recommended Building the Bonds of Attachment to many people around my office and have handed it to foster parents when i talk to them about working with some of our attachment disordered kiddos. It has opened many eyes to what these kids go through and why they act in the bizarre ways they sometimes do. The skills of the foster parents and therapist described here are unfortunately not the norm--but there are lots of us out here who are learning all that we can and doing all that we can to provide appropriate treatment to these tortured souls. This book was educational, an encouragement, and a source of inspiration to me.

Parenting a "Katie" of my own.

When I read this book, it was difficult at first; since it was too much like real life. Daniel Hughes does a wonderful job of providing real life examples and behaviors of an Attachment Disordered child. As I read the book, from a mother's perspective, I found myself riveted to the pages, looking for answers to the same questions that "Katie's" Mom/Foster Moms were looking for....how to break down the barriers to love!! The scariest part was that "Katie" could very well be my child....I wondered how Daniel Hughes had managed to know so much about my life.....right down to my thoughts, words and feelings. He has done a remarkable job of giving the reader insight to the Primary Caregiver's (mother's) relationship or lack of, with this deeply hurt child. As well as, the challenges faced within the family structure (Mom is generally seen as the ogre)...splitting and manipulating are key tools used by these children. Yet, on the other hand he has balanced that with the eyes and knowledge of the therapists (some good and some not so good)....but then this is the reality of living with and parenting a child with Attachment Disorder. Thank you Daniel Hughes for making my life seem real and for making me realize that I am not crazy and my child is not the perfect angel 'outsiders' perceive her as!!!

I devoured this book!

This book was so interesting and readable, I read it from cover to cover in a day. I'm not a foster parent, I'm a teacher, but I have dealt with emotionally disturbed children in my classroom (in fact, I'm dealing with one this year). This book gave me so much insight into why these children act the way they do. Now I understand why they have such a need to be in control of everything, why they will do destructive things with seemingly no motive whatsoever (breaking their favorite toys, destroying their favorite books, etc.) Now I understand why things always get worse just as they seemed to be getting better. Most importantly, now I understand why these kids can't handle praise and rewards, and why those stupid behavior modification programs the administrators and counselors always suggest always seem to make the problem worse. Thank you Daniel A. Hughes!

An answer to my prayers!

This is a must have book for anyone dealing with attachment disorder. I have read it over and over and learned something substantial each time. After about 6 months of failed attempts to find a therapist trained to work with my four year old daughter and I, I finally bought this book and dove in. I have been doing therapy with my daughter for about two months as described in the book and now we have a budding new relationship. A reciprocal one. She is beginning to love and trust. This is the missing peice of the puzzle. It makes sense.