Breaking Point: Why Women Fall Apart & How They Can Re-Create Their Lives

by Martha N. Beck

Much as Gail Sheehy did in Passages, Dr. Beck articulates a common signpost in women's lives, explaining the five stages which characterize how women arrive at their breaking point, how their age... This description may be from another edition of this product.

• Format: Hardcover
• Language: English
• ISBN: 081296375X
• ISBN13: 9780812963755
• Release Date: August 1997
• Publisher: Crown Publishing Group (NY)
• Length: 403 Pages
• Weight: 1.68 lbs.
• Dimensions: 1.3" x 6.5" x 9.6"

Customer Reviews

The book I wish I had 20 years ago

I came up against conflicts and obstacles in my life as a 20-something woman--smart, good-looking, well educated, successful. I had no idea what kept hitting me. There were the reasons everybody cites, but there was something deeper that was insoluble, it seemed to me. I couldn't figure out why I was the only woman I knew who was stopped in her tracks, overwhelmed by the horror of people's expectations and everyone's acceptance of the fact that these expectations all contradicted each other. It was even worse in my 30s. Late 30s, I gave up. Yup, this is it. This sidesteps all the quick-fix, superficial explanations about how to feel better and be more successful at X, Y, Z as a "modern woman". Most people who write those books have no idea what that is, even though they think they do. This book is funny, smart, honest, well-researched. It sidesteps the typical cliches and categories used by 99% of all who write about women's lives. For that alone, she should get a medal. A lot of money, time, effort, and grief wasted over the decades in trying to come to the very conclusions Martha Beck describes, but at least that means I know the real thing when I see it. I'm so grateful I came across it. When you've identified the real problem, the solutions you come up with have traction. They work. What a gift, to be pointed in the right direction.

A woman's working manual

Apparently this book did not have the success that Martha Beck's subsequent books have had - perhaps the reason why it is out of print. I have read most of her books, but this one, in my view, surpasses them all; I regard it as a superlative working manual. I agree with previous reviewers that Beck is both scholarly and humorous, but I think the book's greatest strength is the way the author brings together so many women's stories - the rites of passage that we all need to know about for our own sanity. I go to this book not only for validation, but also for much needed refuelling. Beck's analogy of the chrysalis (although other authors have used it) is especially lucid, and is sufficiently empowering on its own. If, as a woman, you are on a personal "vision quest" this book is a great map. Find a second hand copy, and never let it go.

This is The Book

I have never written a book review before, and may never write a book review again, but I simply could not resist the opportunity to let everyone who will listen know that this book is The Book For The 21st Century. Buy it. Read it. Then buy 6 more and send it to all your friends.

A wonderful book for women!

It's great to know that there are other women who have gone through a "breaking point". I loved the historical perspective on women's roles in society and how industrialization has changed how men and women relate to each other, the family and the community. I bought this book some time ago after seeing Ms. Beck on a talk show. I think it's time I reread it and rediscover the wisdom in its pages. If you can get your hands on a copy, buy it!

This is a great book

You have to read this book. It goes into the different generations of women and how men perceive our roles in society. So many women these days are trying to work full time in high stress jobs plus take care of the house and kids. For all of you women who are at the "Breaking Point" trying to please everyone and wearing yourself out in the process, you gotta get this book. It will really open your eyes.