Fetter: (noun) "a chain or manacle used to restrain a prisoner." In Buddhist teachings there are said to be ten "fetters" (samyojana) which hold back our progress in this life.
In 2009 J.D. laid in his Beijing hostel room, 750 yards away from Tiananmen Square, for 2 days, waiting for his friend to leave China, so that he could kill himself for being gay. The author prayed to God for 15 years to heal the so-called "sinful desires." In that hostel room he began to realize there was never any sin to begin with. This book is told through the author's personal experiences growing up in the Christian American South; before expanding into the broader patriarchal, political, religious, and historical reasons that have caused so much unnecessary confusion & pain for individuals in the LGBTQIA+ and BIPOC communities. Lessons of empowerment are interspersed with poetry and photography by the author. Philosophical reasoning and quantum consciousness are discussed as the author broadens a blueprint of hope for individuals reclaiming their personal freedom. From 2012-2018 the author worked as a senior advanced investigator for Child Protective Services of Texas. In 2019 J.D. moved to Portland, Oregon and worked as a social worker for the state of Washington until 2021. Social workers routinely respond to cases of children and teenagers who have self-harmed as they discover their sexual orientations or gender identities are non-heteronormative. Many of these teens do not have supportive parents and are further disempowered by their local communities during these important formative years. In short, kids were wanting to kill themselves for being gay, queer, or questioning their identities. These are many of our stories. That was J.D.'s story too. Something had to change.