Boys Will Be Men: Raising Our Sons for Courage, Caring & Community

by Paul Kivel

While the women's liberation movement produced dynamic changes in society's assumptions about girls' roles, little has changed about our attitude toward the role of boys. Yet the cycle of violence and... This description may be from another edition of this product.

• Format: Paperback
• Language: English
• ISBN: 0865713952
• ISBN13: 9780865713956
• Release Date: August 1999
• Publisher: New Society Publishers
• Length: 256 Pages
• Weight: 0.50 lbs.
• Dimensions: 0.7" x 6.1" x 9.0"

Customer Reviews

How to Raise an Excellent Son

I actually unexpectedly met one of Paul Kivel's [grown] sons after reading the book. He is a living testament to the teachings in this book. Obviously Kivel's ideas work as he did an excellent job raising his son who is intelligent, emotionally intelligent, compassionate, strong, socially aware, an activist, and a leader - no such nerd or wallflower as some other reviewers implied would happen if you raise your son according to the tenets in this book. His son cares about the people in this world, treats people with respect, and does what he can to make the world a better place. I would be wary of people who don't want to raise their sons in such a thoughtful manner.

Outstanding anti-violence resource for schools & parents

Paul Kivel has done it again with this excellent, pragmatic piece on how to challenge the forces that harm young men (and young women) in schools and families. As a professor of school and family counseling, I am always searching for pragmatic, effective, down-to-earth resources that will assist students, parents, counselors, teachers, and all others concerned about our youth. Kivel brings his substantial experience as an anti-oppression educator and activist from his work with the Oakland Men's Center into his latest work. Having seen him do his workshops live, knowing his unique abilities to affirm boys and men across all cultural identities, this work continues his excellent pragmatic scholarship in creating safe schools and families for all. Highly recommended and I have adopted it for use in my school counseling courses.

Thought-provoking book for parents raising boys

This book is fascinating in more ways than one. It dicusses the many social and family pressures on boys growing up in America, and how we can relieve some of these pressures so that our sons can grow up to be mature, sensitive adults. It includes such issues as showing emotions, competitiveness in sports, homophobia, teenage relationships, violence on TV and in video games, and family values. It offers many opportunities for the adults reading the book to think about and discuss their own feelings on their upbringings and personal morals, and shows how these aspects can shape boys. It doesn't offer any answers, but rather asks the questions in such a way that readers can make their own decisions about topics.