Boundaries with Kids: When to Say Yes, When to Say No to Help Your Children Gain Control of Their Lives

by John Townsend, Henry Cloud, John Townsend

Book Overview

Discusses the creation of healthy boundries and reinforced consequences to help children develop a sense of accountability for their own lives.

• Format: Hardcover
• Language: English
• ISBN: 0310200350
• ISBN13: 9780310200352
• Release Date: April 1998
• Publisher: Zondervan Publishing Company
• Length: 224 Pages
• Weight: 1.00 lbs.
• Dimensions: 0.8" x 6.2" x 9.3"

Customer Reviews

Did NOT receive book pictured

This is not the book I order. Severely disappointed.

Awesome Book On How To Deal With Kids

This book is great with young kids. I have a toddler and an infant and tried some of the suggestions in the book and it has helped me better deal with my daughter. I can't say how it would work on teenagers, but I have found Cloud's/Townsend's books on marriage, mom's, and boundaries in general to be very good.If you have children, this book along with the Boundaries book are excellent books to assist in raising children with healthy self-esteems. These books help you set appropriate boundaries in your relationships, which empowers rather than enables. I love the examples they give about the various types of boundaries we need to have. It reinforces what they are talking about.Their suggestions are very practical and realistic.

This book is making me think!

I am only halfway through the book and already I have found it tremendously helpful. It has made me realize that even though there is a lot of instinct involved in parenting I must not just parent on a whim. It must be purposeful and planned with goals set for both my children and myself. I cannot just "let it happen." This book has also made me take a hard look at myself and realize areas where I have faulty thinking and need to work on personal growth. The authors achieve this with a gentle firmness, not making one feel guilty but rather inspired to make the necessary changes. Quote from the book, "Children don't have it in them to grow themselves up. They respond and adapt to how they are parented."

great audio tape- very well narrated.

Becasue I travel in my car so much I listen to a lot of books on tape. This is one of the best I have ever listened to. It was very REAL and the authors related right on with the feeling of parents. Even though it was obvious the authors came from a christian background (as do I) the book did not make that the basis of the book. The book gave real solutions to existing problems and great advice on fixing situations so other problems do not arise in the future. Some of the ideas and principles are tough to stomach as a parent but have worked miraclously(sp) with my 2 year old.The book so good I bought 3 copies for friends and my brother. I also bought their other book on boundries in marriage which I am looking forward to listening to soon.

All I can say is WOW...

I'm able to find something I heartily disagree with in every childcare or child discipline book I read. Even in my favorites. But I thought my head was going to fall off I nodded so hard while reading this book. I used to hedge daily on discipline worrying I was "hurting" my kids too much when I had to enforce loss of privileges. This book made me see that all consequences are painful...they are supposed to be. But painful and harmful are not the same thing. Just because my child is temporarily unhappy, that doesn't mean she is permanently scarred. All growth is painful. The flip side to the advice is you should balance your enforcement of consequences with empathy, affection, and support. You are neither your child's enemy nor his friend. You are his parent.I was able to immediately put the good advice to use right away and my family is so much more peaceful! Boundaries really are good for building character, increasing empathy, and as converse as it may sound, strengthening the relationship between you and your children. The authors are both psychotherapists and devout Christians. I thought the Christian bent might annoy me but the scriptures quoted were used sparingly and only enhanced the eloquence and relevance of the text.I wholeheartedly recommend this book to friends and relatives, Christian and secular. Buy this book and you will walk around thinking "I know which boundaries HIS/HER parents didn't enforce as a child." What an enlightening book!