Beyond Romance: Making Love Last

by Robert H. Simmons

Book Overview

Packed with insightful strategies and practical exercises, this book teaches couples necessary new skills, which will lead them to gain greater understanding of themselves, their partners and... This description may be from another edition of this product.

• Format: Paperback
• Language: English
• ISBN: 0882822551
• ISBN13: 9780882822556
• Release Date: February 2005
• Publisher: New Horizon Press
• Length: 195 Pages
• Weight: 0.57 lbs.
• Dimensions: 0.6" x 5.5" x 8.5"

Customer Reviews

Understanding the hidden threads that move us within our relationships

I was deeply moved reading Dr. Simmons' book. It clearly shows how the way we have been brought up can leave deep imprints within each human being that will condition the way each one of us relates to other people later in life, affecting very specially our relationships with our partners in ways that are usually hidden to our unconscious. This in turn will condition each couple's children adding to the already complicated generational chain of pain that is usually blindly passed down onto the next generation, without having a clue as to why relationships are so difficult to deal with, when it could be a wonderful opportunity for growth instead if each partner is aware of his/her own childhood conditionings and the way we so often repeat the patterns that we were taught within our Family Dinamics. I found it a wonderful tool to understand the way this conditions each one of us to make decisions about the way we regard the world and our relationships and how these decisions that are the core of our Inner Family Theater play a huge role in the way we act out on our respective partners, all the unresolved inner pain that often goes completely unnoticed and much less understood by us, that can lead to very painful and sick games between partners and eventually to a complete break up. I not only loved the book, but could actually understand the way I had myself acted out many things within my own failed marriage and how my then husband did the same. Sadly, none of us could understand this and seek the help we so badly needed. It was like a mourning process for me, while at the same time a wonderfully hopefull reading that showed me a different way of building a deeply loving relationship. So I would highly recomend this wonderful book to any person who wanted to truly build a deeply committed and loving relationship and to understand the reasons why our unresolved inner pain can hurt and even destroy our relationships. The practical exercises are a great tool as well

Toolbox for Repairing Relationship Struggles

The most important aid in solving relatiohship struggles has been discovering the broad ideas which allow you to see your own issues as parts of a more easily understood whole. This little gem contains bite sized nuggets of wisdom that give you that "ah ha!" feeling, allowing an easy grasp of the insight or explanation for the problem it connects to. The writing is crisp, with apt words of wisdom from the ages to illuminate, great concrete examples and down-to-earth tools that work. It is a user-friendly but profoundly helpful, informative, and very readable support-system for couples.

Thank you Dr . Simmons

This book is a real marriage saver! Dr. Simmons' insightful and easy to understand concepts about the hidden baggage that we bring into relationships have helped us learn how to keep our marriage off auto pilot. The book spells out the common illusions about how we think marriage is "supposed to be," and replaces those with real-life truths about what we can expect from each other and from our marriage. The exercises were great, and they helped us understand why we sometimes act and react the way we do. We now have reasonable and fulfillable expectations, and we know that making the intentional choice to love each other is the key to making our love last.

Hope Renewed

After two failed marriages and a string of partnerships that in one way or another seem to follow the same pattern (no matter how different the men!), Beyond Romance gives me both practical tools and renewed hope for a relationship that works. From the get-go, the author puts us to work, challenging us to look at ourselves in dramatically different ways, offering sound -- and often surprising -- reasons for the stuck places we've come to, and giving us assignments that reveal the truth and beauty of who we really are. Breaking the mold of so many other couples books, Dr. Simmons does not ask us to keep the flame of romance alive. Rather he asks us to make a decision, to dive into the work, and to develop the power of INTENTIONAL love. Working with the scripts from our families of origin, he asks us learn new ways of communicating from a more conscious state of mind, and in so doing, the illusion of romance gives way to the richness and power of real intimacy. I loved this book. It made me think, it made me work. As my self-awareness has grown, it has made me a kinder, more joyful individual and a better, more conscious, more loving partner. This little book will start a revolution -- a revolution of love.