Being One: Finding Our Self in Relationship

by Steven Harrison

Book Overview

Being One sheds light on the meaning of our quest for love and relationship in all aspects of human life: marriage, family, and work. The book distinguishes itself from the myriad of writings on how to find a partner, how to improve your relationship, how to stay married, etc., by helping us to see that we are already profoundly connected to the people in our lives. Harrison digs deeply into our assumptions and beliefs about our culture and ourselves...

• Format: Paperback
• Language: English
• ISBN: 0971078653
• ISBN13: 9780971078659
• Release Date: March 2002
• Publisher: Sentient Publications
• Length: 133 Pages
• Weight: 1.45 lbs.
• Dimensions: 0.4" x 5.2" x 7.5"

Customer Reviews

Envisioning Transcendental Relationships

BEING ONE is a book for contemplative people who seek to experience transcendental relationships, and are willing and able to do the work necessary to get there by being honest, compassionate, and detached. Steven Harrison explains that there are serious problems with the three main phases of most romantic relationships (infatuation/falling in love, power struggles, dynamic boredom); all three of these phases of love are built on a foundation of an addiction to separation. This separation is imagined, not real. Only love is real... and each and every one of us can experience the joy of being in love... of being free from attacking and defending... of knowing that we are all as one... and of being one. Everyone can benefit from reading BEING ONE and imagining a world in which all the people can live their lives as one. I give this book my highest recommendation. -- Cynthia Sue Larson, author of "Aura Advantage: How the Colors in Your Aura Can Help You Attain What You Desire and Attract Success"

Why are relationships so difficult?

Why does happiness in our relationships so often elude us? We all want to love and be loved and yet, how many people do you know who have a relationship you'd want to be in? If you want to understand better why this is, Being One can help you. The author explains very clearly how we project our hopes and needs onto our beloved and why that projection kills love. What is usually portrayed as love in our society is actually fear. This very beautiful book describes what it takes for human beings to be fully in a relationship of love. If you let it, this book can change your life.

A challenging read...

This is one of those books that lays out some hard truths about relationships and offers absolutely no guaranteed steps or tactics to make them work. It is also not limited to romantic relationships, although that is one of the areas of focus. I hope that I don't mangle the author's message, but basically the author states that most relationships are based in a need that we think another person can fill for us, but that ultimately they cannot. Whether parent to child, lover to lover, or neighbor to neighbor we are addicted to the idea that we are separate and distinct, yet incomplete and that we can become more whole through being loved, needed by another. The need is what gets in the way, though. As we try to push, pull and make others do what we want we have forgotten that we are already complete -- true relation occurs without judgement, without projection and without need. A fascinating read, even though some of the messages are hard to hear because they don't fit in with our pre-conceived notions of love, psyche, etc.

Extraordinary!

Wow! If you want to stop playing at relationship and start discovering it right now-- get this book, read it and look at how we have all put together a world that is about our "addiction to separation" in Harrison's words. A wonderful book that should top every spirituality best seller list but will likely remain a discovery for those who are lucky enough to find it.

An outstanding book on spirituality and relationship

BEING ONE is one of the rare books on relationship that addresses the real problems of relating-- the identification with a constructed self and all of the dishonesty that grows out of that. I found the author's first book, DOING NOTHING astounding in its simplicity and directness and was drawn to BEING ONE as a result. I was not disappointed and highly recommend this wonderful book.