Become Your Own Matchmaker: 8 Easy Steps for Attracting Your Perfect Mate

by Patti Stanger and Lisa Johnson Mandell

Book Overview

The star of the hit show The Millionaire Matchmaker Patti Stanger offers a no-holds-barred, take-no-prisoners guide to finding Mr. Right--in just one year

Patti Stanger created an overnight Bravo sensation as the star of her own reality series The Millionaire Matchmaker. As a matchmaker, she has been in the enviable position of having men all over the country open up and reveal what made them want to settle down--and what...

• Format: Paperback
• Language: English
• ISBN: 1416597719
• ISBN13: 9781416597711
• Release Date: December 2009
• Publisher: Atria Books
• Length: 288 Pages
• Weight: 0.60 lbs.
• Dimensions: 0.8" x 5.4" x 8.3"

Customer Reviews

Patti knows her stuff. Period.

Of course, I love the bravo show, so when I heard this book was coming out, I really wanted to buy it and investiage what she would say in regards to dating and men. I was not disappointed. This woman knows her stuff, she's been around all kinds of people and she tells you how to get out there and date better, period. It is one of the best of its kind and, in my opinion, should not be overlooked, as well as How To Be Wanted: Use the Law of Attraction to Date the Man You Most Desire and Live the Life You Deserve.

Hard to Put Down

I'm a huge Millionaire Matchmaker fan, so when I saw that Patti Stanger published a book, I immediately bought it. If you're a fan of her show, you might be disappointed that the book is not targeted to the females seeking highly successful men audience. But I think that's a positive point about the book. She gives sound and practical advice on general dating--which would be applicable to any woman seeking guidance on finding the right man. The book discusses 8 steps in finding the right mate--all of which I believe are extremely helpful. I look back at some of my past relationships, and wish I had some of her advice back then. One of her most helpful tips I found was in step four, qualifying the buyer. She suggests coming up with 5 non-negotiables--must have qualities you are looking for in a mate--laminating them on card and carrying that card with you at all times. I've done that, and it's very good advice because it forces you to only consider men who meet your needs. Another helpful tip she gives is in only investing a year of your time in a relationship. If marriage is your ultimate goal, and you don't see things headed that way as you get closer to the year mark, it may be time to move on. Very wise advice, as some women spend way too much time on dead-end relationships. Overall, the book is right on point, informative and entertaining, written in Patti's no-nonsense voice. This is a must read for those wanting a relationship that leads to marriage.

Surprisingly good information given honestly and thoughtfully

I wasn't sure what to expect from this book and was pleasantly surprised that it turned out to be a wonderful read. I've watched Patti's show, and while I don't always agree with what she says in the show I still find it interesting to watch. Her book spells out her rules for dating, taking it further than what she says on the show since the show seems to be more geared to preparing the guy for dating and the book is solely geared to the single gal looking for love. I breezed right through the book, and found myself dog-earing many pages for future reference. Her suggestions are very practical, and she gives very good insight into the mind of the man. Many times her advice is just run for the hills; a kind of "he's just not that into you" without coming out and saying that. For some of us ladies, that may be hard to hear. But eventually we realize that if we had listened to that in the first place, we would have avoided months, if not years, of heartache and torture. I know I've been one to seriously doubt the "more fish in the sea" maxim, and have settled for some awful and ill-fitting tops to my pot. But reading her book and the inspirational dating stories that she relates has made me realize that settling is seriously selling myself short. Her own dating horror stories and happy ending show that women can find a happy ending, even after 40! Thanks Patti for telling us girls what we should be doing in order to find our perfect mate.

Loved it!

I generally don't write reviews but this book was so spot on that I had to. The advice was easy to follow, it wasn't preachy and it just plain made sense. I could not put this book down! I've been talking to all my girl friends about it. Patti covers everything from where to meet men, what not to say on a date, and even what men want and why you should not call a man after a great date to thank him. If you have been dating and not sure what you're doing wrong, this book may yeild a clue.

Insightful

So after watching a few episodes of the Matchmaker I thought I would check out her book. I must say I really liked the book, and it isn't your typical dating advice. I really think it is from a male perspective, a few men in my life would say she was dead on in many areas. I liked many aspects of the book. I liked that she went into what a guy wants physically, and yes, it is a variety, but we should always try to look our best, not to wear enough make up to look like a clown, and apparently you need to add in wearing high heals, and having longer hair. I wouldn't have given serious thought to the last two suggestions. I like that she asks you to work through your old baggage, and not to bring it to a date. Guess what, we all have our own baggage, but we really should deal with it, and not make someone else carry it around. she asks us to not talk about bad previous dates, or really talk about anyone badly, because that is a reflection of ourselves. Other good points I thought she had was not having sex without have an exclusive and committed relationship, and giving it 90 days before having sex. If you think about it, it is sound advice, many people you date you shuffle though long before 90 days, and well it eliminates booty calls. It also helps seperate out the relationship minded men, and the those who aren't interested in a long-term relationship. Many other good points in this book. Definately worthwhile. Follow her advice and you will eliminate a lot of needless dating, and save yourself some heartache. I highly recommend this book to anyone who is dating, male or female.