Barbara and Susan's Guide to the Empty Nest: Discovering New Purpose, Passion, and Your Next Great Adventure

by Barbara Rainey and Susan Yates

Book Overview

Discover New Passion and Purpose after the Kids Leave Home Many women approaching their empty-nest years do so with mixed emotions--feeling grief for what is no more but also excitement for what lies ahead. Barbara Rainey and Susan Yates are seasoned empty nesters, and they know firsthand the ups and downs, the uncertainty and challenges that accompany this new stage of life.Although Mom is a lifelong role, the job description changes significantly...

• Format: Paperback
• Language: English
• ISBN: 0764219197
• ISBN13: 9780764219191
• Release Date: April 2017
• Publisher: Bethany House Publishers
• Length: 256 Pages
• Weight: 0.70 lbs.
• Dimensions: 0.7" x 5.5" x 8.4"

Customer Reviews

You won't feel empty for long

Reviewed by Tammy Petty Conrad for Reader Views (7/08) I haven't yet begun to worry about my future empty nest, but I already feel better knowing I can turn to this book and its two authors when the need arises. These two women earnestly share their personal experiences and those of women they've encountered to help us all. The idea of "losing" our children to the world and being the mother bird left behind with an empty nest hits women in many different ways. Since our experiences are all slightly different there is no one way to make everything better. Rainey and Yates describe this "...like Jell-O, hard to grab hold of and constantly changing shape." But they have many suggestions to help us survive this life transition as painlessly as possible. Since my own nest is still full I had not begun to think of the many issues the book details. But reading this makes me aware of the importance of preparing in advance so it won't be such a negative time. The authors acknowledge that it seems to hit women harder, but that men also have issues with this time and we should talk about it and help each other as much as possible. Marriages should still remain a priority. They also introduce the "Season Principle" reminding readers that this is only another season of our life. Nothing stays the same forever as we travel through different seasons, or phases, of our life. Each has their own challenges and rewards. There is a lot of discussion about how women wrap their lives around their children making it an overwhelming change when they are no longer there. I was surprised that women who work outside the home fulltime found it just as hard to make the transition. I also appreciated how the authors addressed all the different kinds of empty nests and how they might affect our responses. These women have a strong spiritual background and encourage women to turn to God during this time, just as we would during other stressful situations. They also support having a strong network of women friends who have been through similar experiences and can offer support and comfort during this time. This is one of those books you can read straight through or you can use it as a workbook and answer the questions found at the end of the chapters to allow you to contemplate further. There are also recommendations of other books that readers may find useful. I love that this is very well-rounded and brings up issues from many different angles. Just a side note, it is a pretty book. I found the brown and blue color combination and the font choice very soothing. I am glad I got a head start on being prepared for this transition during my own life. With my children six-and-a-half years apart and different sexes, I realize now that I will probably go through it twice and in very different ways. With "Barbara & Susan's Guide to the Empty Nest" on my bookshelf I don't need to fear the future.

Barbara & Susan's Guide to the Empty Nest

When my first daughter moved out after high school, I was devastated. I walked around like I had a piano tied to my butt and I cried for hours every time she'd visit. This continued until she moved back in, with boyfriend in tow. When they finally moved out, I was more than ready to let them go. Now my other kids are readying to leave the nest, all at once it would seem. I hate to admit it but I feel elated. I can't wait for quiet dinners with my husband, a house that stays clean, and the ability to spend more time on my writing. I picked up Barbara & Susan's Guide to the Empty Nest because I didn't want to be a basket case again when the exodus finally does occur. My attitude seems different this time but I was a little worried that I was in denial. I was also feeling rather guilty about being happy to have the freedom of a quieter life. I would highly suggest Barbara & Susan's Guide to the Empty Nest to any parent with older children. The authors have been through the process themselves and know that we all react in our own unique ways. I guess really we all grieve and move on at different speeds and with various with stops and starts. Sometimes, it just isn't pretty and we don't all react the way others would expect. It's good to know that we aren't alone.

I'M NOT LOSING MY MIND!!!

This is the greatest book, and one that every woman needs to read at this time in her life! My husband has been telling me that he's worried about me because I've "changed". He says I'm not as much fun as I used to be, and that he thinks I'm depressed. Well guess what...I'M NORMAL!!! With all the different emotional and physical changes that we go through during this time, it's no wonder we seem different. The good news is that it's temporary, and should be embraced as a new beginning to the next season of our lives! Thank you, Barbara and Susan!

Encouraging!

I love the way Barbara and Susan are upbeat and encouraging. Even when they talk about the downside (and they do talk about the downside) of the empty nest years, they do so with an attitude of hope and encouragment. Especially helpful are the suggestions on finding out who you are once you separate your identity from your children's and then discovering what to do with yourself in a meaningful way for the many years you probably have left to make a difference on this earth. A great read, whether your kids are gone or just getting ready to leave.