Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find--And Keep--Love

by Amir Levine, Rachel Heller, Rachel S.F. Heller

Book Overview

"Over a decade after its publication, one book on dating has people firmly in its grip."
--The New York Times

We already rely on science to tell us what to eat, when to exercise, and how long to sleep. Why not use science to help us improve our relationships? In this revolutionary book, psychiatrist and neuroscientist Dr. Amir Levine and Rachel Heller scientifically explain why some people seem to navigate relationships effortlessly, while others struggle.

Discover how an understanding of adult attachment--the most advanced relationship science in existence today--can help us find and sustain love. Pioneered by psychologist John Bowlby in the 1950s, the field of attachment posits that each of us behaves in relationships in one of three distinct ways:

- Anxious people are often preoccupied with their relationships and tend to worry about their partner's ability to love them back.
- Avoidant people equate intimacy with a loss of independence and constantly try to minimize closeness.
- Secure people feel comfortable with intimacy and are usually warm and loving.

Attached guides readers in determining what attachment style they and their mate (or potential mate) follow, offering a road map for building stronger, more fulfilling connections with the people they love.

• Format: Paperback
• Language: English
• ISBN: 1585429139
• ISBN13: 9781585429134
• Release Date: January 2012
• Publisher: Tarcherperigee
• Length: 304 Pages
• Weight: 0.74 lbs.
• Dimensions: 0.9" x 5.9" x 8.9"
• Age Range: 18 years and up
• Grade Range: Postsecondary and higher

Customer Reviews

Illuminating

Perusing the book store shelves as someone who is 40 years old and single, this book stood out to me. I'd been told by a few people that I had "attachment issues", and although I had a basic awareness of anxious, avoidant, and secure attachment styles, this book helped me gain a better understanding of the maladaptive defenses that can be activated with certain attachment styles, and also provided examples of how to bypass these defenses with healthier communication. I've read enough "self-help" books that much of it seems repetitive or cliche at this point, but this book taught me some new and useful information which I believe can be used to nourish healthy partnerships. Highly recommended.

Must read!!

This book definitely has given me the tools to be more authentic in my truth, wants and needs in relationship and I’ll defiantly be navigating relationships with a new perspective from now on