At the Coffee Shop

by Cherie Burbach

Are you debating the prospect of Internet dating but feel it's for losers, weirdoes, or worse? Or perhaps you've decided to try e-dating but are not quite sure the best way to proceed. At the Coffee... This description may be from another edition of this product.

• Format: Paperback
• Language: English
• ISBN: 0595342728
• ISBN13: 9780595342723
• Release Date: January 2005
• Publisher: iUniverse
• Length: 84 Pages
• Weight: 0.30 lbs.
• Dimensions: 0.2" x 6.0" x 9.0"

Customer Reviews

Read this if you are looking for "Mr. Right."

Reviewed by Kelli Glesige for Reader Views (2/06) Many of us have the impression that meeting people over the internet is very dangerous and should be avoided at all costs. Most of us would never tell someone looking for a date to search for one through an online dating website. However, Cherie Burbach may just change your mind about e-dating if you follow her advice and take the precautions she shares. If you've tried dating through the traditional means and have found no success, maybe you should look at things in a new perspective. Cherie Burbach found herself to be 36 years old and single with a career she found satisfying. Something was missing however, because she really hoped for a husband and family someday. She finally decided to give e-dating a try and ultimately found the man she is currently happily married to. In her book, Cherie also tells us of her experiences, both good and bad, and offers her views on how to make the whole e-dating process safe, fun and successful. Most of us probably feel that dating in and of itself is not for the faint of heart, so e-dating can be an even scarier proposition. If you are still hoping to meet that special someone, it is important to be a complete person all on your own first. Time spent alone will help you to know what you really want so that when you meet someone, you will have a good idea if they are "Mr. Right", not just Mr. Right "for now". You will only be wasting time if you don't know what you are looking for. Before reading "At the Coffee Shop," all my feelings about internet dating were negative. However, after reading the book, if I were in the situation of wanting to find a lasting relationship with someone and I had tried other means of dating without success, I would give internet dating a try. Internet dating has the distinct advantage in that everyone at the site is looking to meet someone. There is much more control because you choose who you want to see, what time of day or night you want to look for a compatible profile, if you want to e-date just a little or more often, and you can take a break or even stop whenever you want. Cherie stresses that you NEVER give your address or name for safety sake, and if you ever feel uncomfortable online, block someone out and move on, especially if someone can't take a hint or just "creeps" you out. "At the Coffee Shop" got its name because Cherie feels a coffee shop is the perfect setting to initially meet someone to see if you might be interested in seeing the person again. A coffee shop is a public place which is a MUST. It is convenient and comfortable for both people, there is no pressure to carry things further with the uncertainty of whether or not to buy dinner, and it is easy to get up and leave if things aren't going well or stay and talk if you hit it off with this person. Limiting the initial meeting to one hour beforehand is a suggestion to help make the meeting more successful. Although Ms. Burbach f

Encouragement and tips

At the Coffee Shop is the latest work by Cherie Burbach, who also works as a consultant in assisting people rewrite their online profiles. In At the Coffee Shop she gives advice about online dating while at the same time offering encouragement - she does this while telling the reader of her experience in online dating (and meeting her husband) and in offering tips that helped her. The book is relaxed in tone, usually starting each chapter with a short anecdote from the author's dating life. The anecdotes relate somewhat to the topic she covers in that chapter. The topics she discusses include choosing a site, creating a log and ending a bad date. She spends a good amount of time offering encouragement for those still unsure whether internet dating is right for them, or for those that have "bad attitudes" about dating in general. I feel this book would be helpful to those just starting out in internet dating or for those who may have tried it once or twice and given up. The author's personal stories throughout the book make it entertaining, and the overall message is one of maintaining a positive outlook even when things look bleak. I found the fact that she met her husband using her methods/attitude an inspiring postscript.

Not the Rules

I was given this book from a friend that has been telling me for years to try internet dating, and I never wanted to. I read "The Rules" quite a while ago and have resisted picking up "dating books" ever since. But "At the Coffee Shop" is not like that book at all. First of all, "At the Coffee Shop" is all about internet dating, which is very popular right now. This book is very encouraging and funny, and shows you how to internet date without manipulation and game playing. I like the little personal stories that the author uses as examples, and thought her tips were very smart. What I liked most of all tho is how inspiring and encouraging the book is.

Great stuff

This book is a hoot! I loved it. I've tried the Internet before but after reading At the Coffee Shop I may give it another go. The author writes about her experience in a very funny way. She talks about some of her goofier dates and also spells out a system she used. The book's tone is conversational and I felt very encouraged after reading it.