Are You the One for Me?: Knowing Who's Right and Avoiding Who's Wrong

by Barbara De Angelis

Book Overview

Finally--the book you've been waiting for to help you find and keep the right partner and make love last. Best-selling author and renowned relationship expert Barbara De Angelis reveals everything you need to know about compatibility and shows you how to create the fulfilling relationship you deserve whether you are: Married, and wondering if you could be happier. Single, and wondering how to avoid another wrong partner. In love, and wondering whether...

• Format: Paperback
• Language: English
• ISBN: 0440506700
• ISBN13: 9780440506706
• Release Date: May 1994
• Publisher: Bantam Dell
• Length: 368 Pages
• Weight: 0.75 lbs.
• Dimensions: 0.8" x 5.3" x 8.1"

Customer Reviews

The Dating Wake Up Call.

I love this book. We all need that wake up call. This book explains why some people are compatible and others are incompatible. The book takes you through the process to eliminate the bad dates so you can find the right ones for you. Before you go out dating you need to read this book. Learn to recognise the warning signs sooner not later.Learn to recognise the good signs as well.Get to know people within the first few dates.This book explains it all.Its great advice.Its the step by step to eliminate the bad ones so you find the right ones. Of all the dating books I've read this book stands out above all others.Its a wake up call.It will help you change your direction to find the right dates and maybe find the right person for you to share your life with.

Getting to a better life.

This book is basically telling you to get over yourself. It's the complete opposite of some books I've read that tell you to blame everything on the man, the terrible, terrible man. It's got some clear, concise information that any woman should be able to use. If you want to get married, or into a good relationship, think about giving this one a try. Also try, Man Magnet: How to Be the Best Woman You Can Be in Order to Get the Best Man-A Guide To Dating (Revised Edition).

Barbara is a Godsend!

I have read several of Barbara's books, and they have all been very helpful. The insights that she provides into the workings of relationships and the human mind are easy to understand yet powerful and potentially life-changing! Some readers have criticized her because she has had several failed relationships, but she has learned from those failures and from the people she has counseled, which I think makes her much better suited to give advice! Her books are very straightforward, even a little simplistic, but they will help you see patterns in your life and learn what you can do to make changes for the better. This book is for anyone who's been through not-right or almost-right relationships and wants to understand why things didn't work and how to choose better the next time. A great book for both women and men. If more people would stop and take this advice into consideration, they could save themselves a lot of heartache. A note: Many of Barbara's books overlap one another, sometimes with whole passages repeated verbatim from one book to another. For instance, I read this book followed by her book "The Real Rules" and found the second book to basically be a watered-down version of this one. Get this book and you'll be in good shape. Women, I also recommend "Secrets About Men Every Woman Should Know." Men might even benefit from that book; it reveals some great insights about why men do the things they do, and even my usually stubborn ex admitted that most of it was dead-on. Basically, you can't go wrong with Barbara! Her books are super cheap and are packed with great advice. Do yourself a favor and check them out!

Teaches you how to avoid problematic people/relationships

When I broke up with my girlfriend, I decided I was going to do things differently; first, I would spot warning signs earlier and second, I would be conscious of my own shortcomings which needed work. So, rather than be the typical guy who never tries to get advice, I decided to read several books with varying opinions.One of the things I like about this book is that it has a huge list of problematic people and how to spot their symptoms. Personally, I feel this is classic b/c it's a lot harder to get out of a relationship with a problem person once you're emotionally involved with them. How many people have gotten involved with lovers who were emotionally closed off? How many got involved with a lover addicted to drugs or food or something else which took away from the relationship? How about a rageaholic who would explode and make you walk on eggs? How about someone who was still recovering from child abuse? How about a control freak? How about those who got involved with someone who was married?If you read this book, you could very well save yourself years from getting involved with someone who isn't ready for a relationship or who has subtle flaws which aren't entirely noticeable until you are emotionally involved with the person.Overall, a 4 1/2 star book. It also has a great section about finding the right type of person and an exercise chart at the back to figure out what you want and how to spot it.Best of luck.

Read this or you will be bitter too after 42 years of bliss

Dr. Barbara knows what is like out there today...not 42 years ago. Relationships are different now. She summs it up perfectly for a world of men and women in a world that has changed.

If you want things better, read Barbara

As typical of Barbara DeAngelis' work, she has an insight to guide you as you evaluate your relationships and yourself. The book presents to you questions you should be asking and knowing. Then it is up to you to decide whether to put it to good use. If you are ready to make life better, then open your mind and learn. She puts forth the very questions you don't want to ask, but need to. I have attended several of Barbara's workshops a few years back and enjoy her books and tapes as a boost to what I learned. My quality of life has turned around and I no longer view myself as a victim. In this book, she guides me when I have questions and forces me to be honest with myself about my relationship. Not about who is right or wrong, but how it can work for or against my needs. This lady has more engery and love than anyone I ever met. She deeply cares and gives 100% of herself; and the only thing she wants is that you have the love in your life you want and deserve. One thing she taught me: when what you are hearing isn't comfortable, it is probably the thing you need to listen to the most. Keep up the good work and thank you for caring and wanting to share love. Keep making love work.