Angry Men and the Women Who Love Them: Breaking the Cycle of Physical and Emotional Abuse

by Paul Hegstrom

Book Overview

From the earliest years of his marriage, Paul Hegstrom handled his problems and frustrations the only way he knew how: with fists and fury. Talking about the problem only intensified his rage. Going... This description may be from another edition of this product.

• Format: Paperback
• Language: English
• ISBN: 0834121522
• ISBN13: 9780834121522
• Release Date: May 2004
• Publisher: Beacon Hill Press of Kansas City
• Length: 152 Pages
• Weight: 0.47 lbs.
• Dimensions: 0.4" x 5.1" x 8.2"

Customer Reviews

Helpful information. Great for people helping victims

The first chapter was frustrating. As a lot of women hope that their partner will change and keep going back to him only to continue to be abused. This chapter was disappointing as it gave false hope. The next couple of chapters were very informative and helpful to me. It was comforting to read things I have gone through are in fact abuse and I am not just crazy like my husband tells me. The last couple of chapters were great! They would especially help people that are helping victims and their kids. Every friend, pastor, lawyer, police officer and judge should read this book. I think people could also benefit from reading this book before marriage. I am really glad that I read this book.

compassionate, accurate information

This book changed my life. It was the inspiration for my husband and I to seek counseling for domestic violence. Paul speaks directly to those in need. His insight is profound and true. His work is ground breaking. This book explains the true root of painful behavior and offers realistic strategies to overcome and heal from emotional traumas. Read it and save your life.

Not a Man-Basher

This book was very helpful. It's an easy read, and helpful to both the abused and abuser without being preachy to either side. I believe it's a must-read for both the abuser and their victim...

A Must Read and Heed Book!

Implement! Do it! Half of my counseling career dealt with violent, angry men, incarcerated for life because they totally lost it... and now regret it. "If only someone had stopped me before I did her in." This statement said over and over even when some went in for counseling sessions yet departed because they did not want the "counsel." That meant dramatic change and they loved their power position so much their "security blanket" was not about to be given up. Hegstrom's book skillfully presents these insights with all the "on the scene" drama [routinely seen by deputies] as you cannot help but empathize along with all the hurt, pain, and grief experienced by the two parties tied together in these agonizing episodes. Nonetheless, if the solution is only pondered and never applied, they spin their wheels agonizing forever. Read and heed his counsel!For those couples who will read, I can give them a copy of this book. It is that helpful.

READ THIS BOOK, it gives helpful advice!

A friend, who is the former wife of an abusive man (who eventually killed himself after trying to kill her), says:"This book is boldly written to express the pain of an abusive man who changed his life by coming to grips with the anguish which caused his destructive behavior."The book is well-written, and arranged in an amazinly-helpful format."It's not very long but contains what you need to know to get help for yourself, if you are an angry man, or to understand or offer counseling to an angry man who is driven by the wounds of his past."It also defines the emotional truama that the woman goes through in a relationship with such a man, and offers advice to such women. It identifies what abuse is, and that it can be found in all levels of society."A MUST READ FOR MEN AND WOMEN living in the cycle of abuse.....

Mr Hegstrom provides priceless insight...

When we feel trapped in an abusive home / marriage, we feel afraid, isolated, and scared of knowledge. Knowledge calls us to take well thought out action and to make choices. This book shares the knowledge that both women and men need to break the cycle of abuse in the home. Mr Hegstrom provides priceless insight as to why we behave the way we do, how to change, how to build a proper emotional and physical bond as well as information on where to get help. If you read this book and are encouraged to grow, I recommend finding a Life Skills support group or another program so that you can begin your journey to a healthier lifestyle. This book is an important tool for married and single individuals both. I facilitate Life Skills groups and many women have shared with me that they wish they had received this pain preventative information before they were married. No matter where you are in life, there is hope and you CAN feel peace and joy again. I highly recommend this book and the Life Skills Program.