Aftermarriage: The Myth of Divorce: Unspoken Marriage Agreements and Their Impact on Divorce

by Anita Wyzanski Robboy

Aftermarriage is a fresh look at divorce from the unique perspective of a divorce attorney. Through the compelling stories of divorcing couples, Anita Robboy offers insights into the legal realities of marriage and divorce. Divorce is not the end of the relationship -- it is the beginning of aftermarriage.

• Format: Paperback
• Language: English
• ISBN: 0028642376
• ISBN13: 9780028642376
• Release Date: October 2001
• Publisher: Alpha Books
• Length: 197 Pages
• Weight: 0.30 lbs.
• Dimensions: 0.5" x 5.5" x 8.3"

Customer Reviews

Must read for anyone in a relationship!

This book is a must read for anyone who is in a serious relationship. Whether you are contemplating marriage or divorce, this book has important information that will affect how you choose to frame your affairs. In a simple easy-to-read style the book explains the legal and personal complications that make ending a marriage an extremely painful experience that doesn't end with the divorce decree. Anita Robboy explains how marriage is a legal commitment that is heavily regulated by the state. If children are involved, the state's involvement becomes even more burdensome. If you are simply contemplating marriage and have resources, you need to carefully examine the financial implications of marriage before you walk down the aisle with visions of a life of bliss. Drawing on her years of experience as a divorce attorney, Anita Robboy provides the reader with an inside view of the various types of marriages that she has observed and what happens when couples in these marriage decide to divorce. The pain, suffering, and disillusionment that she describes should make couples pause before they decide to sever their marriages. Divorce is a major disruption of most people's lives and has a heavy price. Moreover, when children are involved, one can never wipe the slate clean and post-divorce arrangements are never perfect.

Highly recommended

It seems so obvious, but Anita Robboy's book, Aftermarriage, makes it clear that a legal divorce really doesn't end the marriage relationship. The concept of "aftermarriage" more accurately describes the long post-divorce relationship as the couple deals with issues around money, children and, later, grandchildren. This book is a must-read for those entering marriage, as well as those contemplating or going through a divorce. Mental health professionals and divorce attorneys, like myself, should recommend it to their clients so they can view divorce as just a first phase of a long, "aftermarriage" relationship.

At last!

Anita Robboy has taken a topic that can only be described as frought and brought it into focus in the most practical, thoughtful and empathetic manner possible. If every couple who find that they are not able to live together took a page from her book their lives individually, and those of their suffering children (no matter what age) would be vastly improved.This is not only a wise book, but a compassionate and well written one.

This is a MUST READ

I have been married 34 years and have no intention of getting a divorce -- yet, I still found this book so stimulating that I read it in one long sitting. It helped me to understand many people I know and why they behave the way they do before, during, and after their divorces. The book is an extraordinary portrait of real people. I now understand how the law regards and treats different types of partnerships and what happens when marriages are over. Robboy's fascinating and somewhat disturbing thesis is that most marriages are in fact never really "over."

Guiding me through a divorce.

This is an informative book on how to get a divorce. The book talks about the different ways one can get a divorce and the ramifications of each choice. I especially liked being able to read about the different fictional couples and the issues that they struggled with. I could really see myself in some of them. I am glad I found this book.