After the Honeymoon: How Conflict Can Improve Your Relationship

by Daniel B. Wile

Book Overview

A new approach to improving couples' relationships. Written in a conversational tone and includes many easy-to-identify-with examples. There are many engaging vignettes which illustrate how couples (even therapists ) can learn to deal with relationship problems, using nonaccusative means of communication. Addresses problems that affect some married couples such as lack of affection, criticism, dependency, fear of commitment, or selfishness, which...

• Format: Paperback
• Language: English
• ISBN: 047185347X
• ISBN13: 9780471853473
• Release Date: May 1988
• Publisher: Wiley
• Length: 304 Pages
• Weight: 0.95 lbs.
• Dimensions: 0.8" x 5.9" x 8.9"

Customer Reviews

Great Resource for Couples

Recommended by a wonderful marriage therapist. It's a good place to start if working on any marital issues. Wile is very articulate, easy to understand, and psychologically it all makes a lot of sense.

Excellent book on communication in relationships

I'm a licensed psychologist in practice for 30 years, and this is the best single book on identifying and expressing emotions in a relationship that I've ever seen. I routinely recommend it to clients; it contains a wealth of information. Wyle gives many examples of how to name feelings that lie below the surface, and how to share them with others in ways that are non-threatening and non-blaming. A fantastic book.

Best of the bunch

I've read literally dozens of books on marital communications issues and this is by far the best. Wile does not cast the problem in moral or "should do" terms. He offers sample conversations which are startling: "Hey, I had a conversation that went bad exactly like that!" He explores the structure of the event, suggesting ways in which our personal histories get in the way of good communication. Each chapter ends with a restructured conversation which gets around those problems.

Exceptional book on handling relationship conflicts

Both in my personal life and in practicing psychotherapy with individuals and couples, I have found that the guidance given in this book is exceptionally helpful and to the point. The author does not waste words; he provides dozens of suggestions and rules for dealing with oneself and the other so that one can handle the inevitable conflict in relationship (intimate and nonintimate) better and find greater satisfaction as a result. I couldn't recommend this book more highly.

One of the best books on navigating relationships ever written

After the Honeymoon is a rare book. It's written with such a wealth of insights that to fully absorb them all takes a bit of time. Every relationship will be enhanced by reading this book. As a couples' counselor, I have recommended this book to all of my clients, with great results.