"It's so good you're settled in your own place. It's what your mother would have wanted." I remember being told that, about a year after she died. I was struggling to keep hold of a job that was closing the walls in on me...and to keep a flat that felt just a little out of reach. Suddenly, it hit me that what had held me together through the times I had slept in the car or wandered down a city high street in search of a hostel was nothing to do...